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That’s funny because I’m also hearing from people that I look 30-35 instead of 47. I have no idea why. I certainly don’t feel 35. Just look that way. It’s not intentionally deceptive but people do expect more energy from me because of it. I don’t pass as well as I would like either but it’s getting better each month. My hair is also getting long pretty fast compared to years ago. I’m going to attribute that to my shampoo though because it’s absolutely wonderful stuff. I’m still not sure yet about FFS, but I’m willing to wait and see what happens before jumping into it. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I look cute and some days I look and think “man”. 

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Josie, what shampoo / conditioner do you use? I have been trying Argan shampoo/conditioner which is an organic argan oil product. 

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 Once you're past puberty, age pretty much doesn't matter when it comes to being recognized as your true gender.

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Beverly right on point..Amen..JB what shampoo are you using. I notice my hair is grown back but I would like it to be fuller and long..And I to get 35-40..Even though I am 55...your right about energy it very important..

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On 9/15/2019 at 1:47 PM, Mia1982 said:

Josie, what shampoo / conditioner do you use? I have been trying Argan shampoo/conditioner which is an organic argan oil product. 

I’m also using an argan shampoo, called art naturals. It’s definitely magical stuff. My real hair is so curly that I look like my hair is some Farrah Fawcett style without even trying most days. But that’s only when I’m wearing a cap. I may snap a picture once I get a new cap that’s cuter. 

 

I’m also learning about a lot of new makeup tricks like how to fake lip fillers and slightly over line lips. That’s going to take some age off for sure. My hyaluronic acid is coming in the mail and I’m so excited to see what it does for my face. It’s supposed to plump and firm. Hopefully it will stave off the desiccated look of aging. But just even light makeup, when it’s done correctly, has taken decades off. It’s not so difficult once you start experimenting a little bit. 

 

There’s tons of natural beauty tips on 5 minute crafts on YouTube that mostly use Aloe Vera in the ingredients, the real plant gel. I’m simply amazed at how versatile it really is. It’s difficult to follow some of the recipes but using the pause button helps figure it out. 

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Josie BEth, Can you post or send me the links to the YouTube videos?

Thanks!

Laura

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Whatever Shampoo people use, Try not to over shampoo. Shampoo can and will strip the nutrients and oils from your hair if it is overused.

Use Conditioner if you do not have dirty hair, and leave in some conditioner to help the hair stay moisturized and healthy. If you feel your hair needs a wash, then just use conditioner. 

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Yep. I’m trying to only shampoo twice a week but sometimes I have to break the rule. I have some hair oil that I use every couple of days and that’s so my scalp can stay moisturized. 

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I bought that Tea Tree Oil and I love it! I use it in my hair, my legs and chest. I mix it with aloe Vera when I use it on my skin, the aloe helps spreading it on the skin.  

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Hey Girls Thanks for the advice and the new tricks will def gave Art Natural a try. I am allergic to Aloe going to pass on that,, Hey Laura just search Beauty Tips on Y.T and you will have tons of videos to chose from..Be Proud, Stay Safe and Kick Ass

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