I was always afraid to fight my whole life and when I was a kid I got picked on a lot and was afraid to stand up to the bullies. That's one of the reasons I wanted to be a girl. The girls can be mean to each other but it never involves being physically hurt so I thought it was much safer to be a girl.
As far as avoiding danger, most cis women know how to do that. You will never see a woman alone at night on a lonely street. They have a good sense for their vulnerability and don't take risks. We need to think like a woman. Hey...... we are women!
Yes I know. She is trying to take care of her mother from 1200 miles away. She uses Visiting Angles most of the day but it's difficult when situations crop up. She's on the phone a lot!
As far as spiteful, you would have to know her to understand her. She is a kind person and has been kind to me throughout this ordeal but cannot tolerate ANY crossdressing even when she is not home.
She has known about my TG for 34 years so there will be NO change in her attitude. She won't even read anything about it, if it's not from God it does not count. She feels the secular world has a lot of things wrong. Otherwise she is a loving person to everyone, never judges people and never complains, whines or nags.
First it's a religious thing with her and of course she feels it's ruining her life. She thinks I have a choice and I am just believing a lie from Satin. That's what I have to work with and of course I can't win when God is used.
So far she has been very reasonable with the financial settlement and that's the most important thing to me, but I wonder where she places in the spectrum of wives responses.
Is she average, or extremely uncooperative?
I just want to get this separation overwith and I am being careful not to respond to her infrequent anger about her situation.
@Charlize @Jani Thank you both for the reassurance. I never want to ruin a good thing with a family relationship. I was playing it safe to some degree but when you have only bits and pieces of a particular situation you’re serving an entree of ‘best guess’ with a side of ‘wisdom’.
Well yes and no. My dad still uses the nickname I used for decades. It sounds silly when he does it. My wife even commented on it when we last saw them. I'm at the point of not caring anymore since I'm comfortable with who I am and if its said loud enough in public, he's the one who seems odd. Plus we don't see my parents face to face regularly. So the daughter just may see it as not worth the effort.
This would be a nice outcome.
I would have done the same thing you did Susan. I say that from my own experience. It has taken my son many years to properly name me and not refer to me as Dad in public. When we are together in private it doesn't bother me but in public it can cause confusion and embarrassment. If the woman does use her daughters chosen name and it disturbers her daughter i'm sure she will say something. My guess is that she would see it as a final acceptance.
Haha that's true.
He is so hyper and excited all the time it is adorable and hard to keep up with him, and I thought I was hyper!! But I really think he was throwing some hints at me and I am definitely taking them and keeping them. He seems like the kind who likes to tease playfully so I better watch out haha.
Welcome Magical Realism, a pleasure to meet you...You are not alone in this at all. I too have been having dreams like this. I’ve had them for decades but since going full time they now have changed slightly. Mine were a little different [pre-transition] in that the fact that I was presenting male except I had breasts accompanied by a bra under my male clothes. The funny thing is that in almost every dream, the people in the dream were unknowing of my little secret until later in the dream, I eventually always get outed by some ridiculous circumstance..lol. But oddly enough, since actively starting my transition, I am always presenting as Susan. It’s almost as if my subconscious is aware of my conscious activities...(kidding)
Well Magical Realism, thanks for putting up with my ramblings. These things happen from time to time. I’m glad you came aboard...hope you stay for the ride.
I would have been a little more direct and said, "Maybe you should ask her." That's just me though. I can't think of a reason I would be uncomfortable if my mother started calling me by my actual legal name and using the correct pronouns. Well, I might be a little skeeved out. We're not close and she's been hostile about it up until now. She'd be up to something. Your new friend though, she seems sincere.
I don't see anything wrong with your answer. It never hurts to try and make a loved one more comfortable when you're talking to them.