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Daphne

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Daphne

Been here for a few weeks now and thought it was time I introduced myself, I have had the feeling of wishing I was born a woman since a very early age and have been cross dressing in whatever female clothes I could get my hands on since I was about 10. Coming from a small market town with very conservative attitudes made it impossible for me to come out to anyone, I tried everything I could to try to fit in and be the man I was expected to be, this included having tattoos, riding motorcycles, and doing sports. Needless to say this did not work, and after two failed relationships that didn't work because I was so unhappy not being able to show my feminine side, I spent years on my own where I could dress when I wanted. I have now found a wonderful woman who not only supports my need to dress but actually encourages me and helps me be more feminine than I ever thought I could be by giving advice on make up and clothing and letting me dress full time around the house, she is even encouraging me to go out fully dressed to go shopping or to a restaurant, I realise that I am very lucky to have her and I will post more about my journey in the future. Sorry if I have rambled on a bit 

 

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Jani

Greetings Daphne.   I'm glad you found us and have posted an introduction.  You didn't ramble at all.  Your story is not uncommon.  It sounds like you've found a real soul mate.  Please join in the conversation.

 

Cheers, Jani

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Krisvm

Hi (also from England),

 

I am glad you managed to find someone. I have been in those kind of conservative towns before and can appreciate the feeling.

 

Definitely not a ramble. Please do post more as you feel like it or need to.

 

Love and hugs,

 

Kris

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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Daphne.  I love your name, BTW.  Glad you found us, and very happy for you that you found such a wonderful woman to share your life with.  Please look around and ask whatever questions you like.  We love active members!

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Charlize

Welcome Daphne.  I'm glad you have joined in and are sharing your journey.  

Your not alone.  Enjoy!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Ellora

Hi and Welcome! I am happy that you found such a helpful and accepting partner. I wish I had someone to help with my makeup and clothes!

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tracy_j

Hi Daphne,

 

Welcome :)

 

Tracy

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Daphne

Thank you all for your warm words of welcome

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gennee

Hi Daphne and welcome.:)

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