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KymmieL

I have noticed that some of my classmates I am friends with on Facebook. They are starting to plan our 30th reunion. which is 2023. I believe. I would love to go. I have only been to our 10 yr. Wanted to attend the 20th but it was a week after my sisters wedding.

 

Since I should well be well into my transition. 4 yrs some months. depending on time of year. 1: Should I go as my school self. the old me. Being I will be so far along with my transition. May be easier going as Kymmie.

So my question is what to wear? formal, casual, party, daily?

 

Kymmie

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Jani

Duh!  That is so far away.  You'll be attending as Kymmie.  I'm sure the dress code will be announced in accordance with the type of party that is planned.  

 

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Krisvm

Usually reunions are semiformal, so just a nice outfit but not supersmart unless the invite says otherwise.

 

As long as you are comfortable with doing so then go as yourself. Maybe just speak to the organisers so you can be under the right name.

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KymmieL

I know it is way early. Don't know why. Maybe what they call Business casual. Nice skirt and blouse or dress. I will have a sharpie in my purse in case the name tags get goofed up.

 

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Jani

Kymmie, in four years this will all be a non-event for you.  You will be comfortable and happy as your true self.  You'll find something to fit the situation that you'll enjoy wearing.  

 

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Jani

Check these out @KymmieL

 

She made a film (www.prodigalsonsfilm.com) that I watched on amazon (if I remember correctly) that I enjoyed.  I think it would speak to a number of points you are thinking about.

 

A woman confronts her past, and future, when she is forced to make a trip to her hometown.

 

 

 

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KymmieL

Jani,

Wow. Both videos were great. I hope to have the courage that Kimberly has one day.

 

Thanks for the nudge.

 

Kymmie

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Jani

You will, and you will be fine.  And so will everyone else in attendance.   

 

Hugs, Jani

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Alex C

Kymmiel..ITS 4 YEARS AWAY......I echo Jani commemts..You will diff you bye then..Hell you will properly have a look -alike robot go in yr place. Because you will  be in Mars driving  around in you Tesla rocket.One thing I learn today was to take one day at a time. I am going to try to do that....But just in case this Robot and Mars does not happen ..I would go as hottest (Turn heads)  blacks heels, tight red dress, and made to kill model that you are.....But I am properly sure this Robot thing is  going to happen..Much lv

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tracy_j

It was not too long back when I went to a similar school reunion. I know one or two old friends knew how I now dress and coloured my hair, but was a bit worried about some (particularly male) members reactions. I need not have as everyone just accepted me, no-one commenting at all (well I always was a bit controvertial LOL). I played it down a bit with smart feminine casual / androgyne rather than the semi evening dress style that some of the women wore, but that is pretty much me anyway. I think word had maybe spread especially as people have posted photos including me from time to time online. It was not an occasion in which women fight hard for supremacy like some are. I do remember a female work collegue mentioning that conventions, or at least the evening meals at such, are where women often go to town on looking their best, which she did.

 

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Josie Beth

Those two videos are so amazing. I’m nowhere near that but it’s nice to know that she has crossed that threshold. I thought I would check the film out on Amazon but to my dismay they didn’t seem to offer it for download there. Maybe I’ll go ahead and purchase it at some point. 

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KymmieL

Changing gears but kind of the same. I was looking on Ebay for a xmas dress. Just seeing what was out there for the possibility I may be working at the home office soon. I may want to wear a holiday dress the day before xmas to work. the selection is far from great. Most are gaudy prints. Some even Halloween(?) all I saw in my search so far are the asian sizes. were a xxl is a us 14. but of course a us stock.

 

I was thinking just a simple holiday pattern sweater dress. Oh well I will continue my search.

 

Kymmie

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