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Passing starts from within


MelissaAndProudOfIt

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Hi all

Passing as a term in crossdressing or being ergo Transgender, meaning to be accepted.   

 

Passing starts from within, i used to video myself after i was dressed to see myself, the way strangers would see me...to pick out points that might of had me clocked. This method helped greatly in my earlier days.  Now, obviously dressing feels more natural to me.  Dressing as a guy is feels more un natural to me.  I seem to get by rather well these days.   People i meet, normally very polite..if i need change..they will say, there you go love.   I get wolf whistles...hey i love it...why are women so deadset against recieving them lol.   

 

If dressing feels not just comfortable, but feels correct and natural on your body, it will fill you with an aura of positiveness and self confidence, and it's this confidence that projects out to other people.  For if you have these feelings in place it will feel so natural and you will feel like a natural woman. Confidences shines like a beacon, just beware of complacency avoiding male mannerisms..practice until its second nature.. uneducating from male and practicing everything female.

 

 

Regards

 

Melissa

 

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Thank you for your post.  The beauty of this journey is that we can find such a comfort with ourselves and the world that the worry about passing disappears. Funny how self acceptance appears to bring the acceptance of others.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize 

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On 8/13/2019 at 9:04 AM, MelissaAndProudOfIt said:

Confidences shines like a beacon, just beware of complacency avoiding male mannerisms..practice until its second nature.. uneducating from male and practicing everything female.

 

This "uneducating from male and practicing everything female" caught my attention and my interest. Do you have any advice or wisdom for those of us who are completely new and naive to MtF beyond our own private bedroom?

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Heathick I would spend time watching people to see how women carry themselves and move differently than men.  Also notice now women speak, in the inflection and tone they use.  You don't have to go "over the top" and get all super fem.  Most women are not, they're just themselves.  You can be also. 

 

Jani

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On 8/13/2019 at 2:04 AM, MelissaAndProudOfIt said:

 I get wolf whistles...hey i love it...why are women so deadset against recieving them lol.   

 

 

 

 

Me too on above, it can be very validating, however many cis women feel that this type of recognition is "objectifying" them as sex objects (it's a thing). Eventually you would grow tired of it. My daughter is an "attractive" young woman, she tells me she is burned out on "-excited- guys". 

 

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2 hours ago, MaryMary said:

it's the region of the brain that overanalyse every little trait of mine to purposefully find reasons to be dysphoric

I love the Mary.  When i no longer thought about myself and gender i think that might have been an end to a process.  My mind went back to all the old stuff filling it.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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3 hours ago, Charlize said:

When i no longer thought about myself and gender i think that might have been an end to a process.  My mind went back to all the old stuff filling it.

 

 

Yes, this is me!  I was telling a friend just yesterday that I just don't think of myself as transgender (even though I am).    I just think of myself as me.   

 

What was the old announcement on TV?  "Now back to our regularly scheduled program."  Ahhhhh!

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Wolf whistles Melisssa - Nice to hear. I have not had any but have had someone whistling tunes, including 'Pretty Woman' lol. Not for a while but I don't go out quite so provocative now. I have had my teenage years lol. I did a little bit of video early on as well to see how my walk compared. Clothing can be seen in a mirror but dynamics cannot easily. After a while it comes more naturally anyway.

 

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