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Trying to find underclothes that work


Rachel34

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I'm trying to starts wearing some female clothes underneath my normal stuff. Underwear, tank tops etc. The issue I'm having is finding an underwear type thing that fits my bits. I skipped past thongs, hipsters and anything smaller and went straight to boy shorts but I'm still having some issues especially when performing day to day activities. Is there anything with a little more length to cover that still looks cute?

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I cannot recommend any clothing other than what you say you have tried, but you may want to read some of the stuff on Tucking that we have here.  Another thing is that you see much more than anyone else that does not look the way you want it to or feels the way YOU think it should, when in reality it is fine and in time will feel natural (if that is what you are looking for). 

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2 hours ago, VickySGV said:

I cannot recommend any clothing other than what you say you have tried, but you may want to read some of the stuff on Tucking that we have here.  Another thing is that you see much more than anyone else that does not look the way you want it to or feels the way YOU think it should, when in reality it is fine and in time will feel natural (if that is what you are looking for). 

Thank you for the reply. I read up on tucking and it mildy scares me(my anxiety might not be helping), but it's something I think I'm willing to try. I found something called a gaffe that would seem to work well for less severe situations, when I'm not overly concerned about printing and at home. The downside is I'm stuck with 3 roommates and am limited to my bedroom for my comfort zone. When I'm in just women's clothing I'm unironically hiding in the walk in closet, listening to music and dancing because it's one of the few areas I'm okay to be me.

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You are flying the Bear Flag like I do and California is a fairly good place for Trans folks.  Take a look for an LGBT Community Center around you, and find their Trans and NB support group meeting times. They are used to people coming in one gender's clothing to the meeting place, having them change and attend the meeting and then cleaning up to go home.  I co-lead such a group myself and it is fun to watch people open up about themselves.  I would not bother with  a gaffe,, just get some high latex fabric Tummy Control panties and after a few tries as you calm down the tucking is much easier. 

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4 hours ago, Rachel34 said:

I skipped past thongs, hipsters and anything smaller and went straight to boy shorts but I'm still having some issues especially when performing day to day activities. Is there anything with a little more length to cover that still looks cute?

 

I've found that the length of boyshorts can vary by design, even from the same manufacturer, and certainly among different manufacturers.  Some labeled as "boyshorts" have no extra hem length at all along the leg.  The ones I really like have an inch of hem, and offer great support whether I choose to tuck (e.g., when I'm wearing leggings) or not (e.g., when I'm wearing pants that aren't figure-hugging).  Ironically, I paid a lot for one pair of boyshorts with 3-inch hems, only to find that they didn't offer good support, and didn't fit as snugly as my favorites.

 

If you'd like more detailed info on the particular boyshorts I find to be good, PM me.  (Didn't want to advertise for specific brand names or stores here.)

 

Oh, and you might give tucking a serious try.  Once you master it, it can become a painless and quick way to deal with your bulge, particularly in boyshorts that fit snugly, like those made from cotton.  (Some boyshort materials have so much give that they don't do as good a job of maintaining support.)

 

Best wishes!

 

Astrid

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I think it's finding what suits you best. I have never got on with boyshorts at all. Not being over there, I won't go into brands but, in general, I have found quality panties better. Obviously womenswear is only designed to cover a small bulge so tucking is really essential.

 

I tend to wear bikini, hi-leg or full brief dependant on situation, how I am feeling or what I am wearing.

 

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