hello new to process and site

[mini]

hello just wanted to say hello

 

i am new to all this and not sure yet well maybe partially sure but have not started any process except this site which is great seems like very welcoming . I just wondered when one changes from MtF what effects do hormones have on well male genitals and if i do not go fully transition with surgery can i still use hormones to function as female and how do you find a good psychiatrist .

[Maid In Bedlam]

Hello and welcome to the site.

 

to answer your questions  Look around the forums. Theres plenty of answers from real life expreiances.

 

Have a read then decide.

 

May I make an observation. You are Genderqueer on your profile? You asking about Male to female.

 

I think you first question maybe is what am i?

 

Now dont take that the wrong way.  But to start your journey you need to decide your destination.

 

What do you want from your life?  Where do you see yourself?  What do you see as your future?

[SaraAW]

Welcome mini. As Maid in Bedlam has said, you will likely find your answers already in the forums. That being said, everyone’s transition is different and is theirs alone. There is every possible variation of surgery, hormones, etc., you just need to find the right combination for you to be you. 

 

Be be safe in your journey of self discovery. This board has a great group of folks, with all kinds of varied life experiences, so if you can’t find a topic that answers your questions, ask away. 

 

*hugs*

 

Sara

[TommieAnne]

My experience finding a gender therapist didn't involve a psychiatrist at all. I went to my primary care physician, told them about the stress and anxiety I was having in general terms. Was referred to a psychologist for counseling, who had a large "safe space" poster on the wall. I commented on that, ended up being referred to my wonderful, caring gender therapist who has been patiently hearing me flip flop about during the process as we explore who I am.

In many instances, primary care is the entry point for all referrals.

And welcome to the forums. Lots to read and learn from. Including a clothing size guide. Now if only someone could guide me through fashion, life would be vastly improved (I tend to dress like a farm hand).

[Charlize]

Welcome Mini.  I came here with many of the same questions.  Time here and some sessions with a gender therapist helped me put my feet on the path that brought me some peace and self acceptance.

Here is a link to a list of resources which you can use :

 

https://www.transgenderpulse.com/resource-locator/

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

 

[Violet]

23 hours ago, mini said:

hello just wanted to say hello

 

i am new to all this and not sure yet well maybe partially sure but have not started any process except this site which is great seems like very welcoming .

Hi mini! Welcome! You're right! This site is great & very welcoming. And, I just wanted to reassure you: It's ok if you're unsure where this is leading. That, so to speak, "unsureness", may feel bad, good, or somewhere in-between. But I'd guess the one thing it feels like more than any other is: necessary. Thus, I don't think you have to be sure just where the process is heading; I don't think you need to have a destination. One needn't be looking to find the right thing.

 

For example, looking online for a way to fix your computer's desktop art, when instead you find the perfect restaurant to take your relative when they're visiting you next week. You found the answer to a question you hadn't asked, & you didn't find the answer to a question you did! But the pre-existing or dormant question was there, the whole time, beneath your self-awareness. Thus, you found the answer without looking for it. Doubtless, I don't think this approach works for all questions; but neither do I think one must be sure where one is going before one starts a journey. As Tolkien has put it: "Not all those who wander are lost." For a picture of this? Just look at my profile pic.

[Timber Wolf]

Hi mini,

Welcome to Transpulse, I'm glad you're here!

 

When we first realize we're trans we often want all the answers right away. This is actually the time to slow down. Take some time learning who we are. Determine how we want to transition. Some find they need to medically transition, some people realize they don't have that need. It is not a requirement. If we take the time to understand ourselves, our journey can bring us real self acceptance.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf ?

[Jani]

Hello Mini and welcome.  

On 9/11/2019 at 3:43 AM, mini said:

I just wondered when one changes from MtF what effects do hormones have on well male genitals

It depends of course on dosages as some have reported libido being shut down while others can still maintain a relationship with their (other sex) partner.  

 

Going on hormones will not make you or allow you, to function as a female but they will tend to soften your emotions and any aggression you may possess.  Aside from the link to the Resources page (posted by Charlize) you can try looking at the Psychology Today website for therapists.    

 

Cheers, 

Jani

[Astrid]

On 9/11/2019 at 8:50 AM, TammyAnne said:

Now if only someone could guide me through fashion, life would be vastly improved (I tend to dress like a farm hand).

There is (as there seems to be for almost any topic) a Fashion for Dummies book that you can check out for basic advice to get you started.

 

Besides developing a sense of fashion, there's also just knowing the terminology, very helpful when searching online or beginning to have conversations with others about fashion items. I stumbled onto this simple but helpful "Glossary of Fabric & Fashion Terms" from Kohl's:

 

https://www.kohls.com/ecom/valueadded/Glossary.htm

 

With best wishes,

 

Astrid

[TommieAnne]

Just now, Astrid said:

There is (as there seems to be for almost any topic) a Fashion for Dummies book that you can check out for basic advice to get you started.

 

Besides developing a sense of fashion, there's also just knowing the terminology, very helpful when searching online or beginning to have conversations with others about fashion items. I stumbled onto this simple but helpful "Glossary of Fabric & Fashion Terms" from Kohl's:

 

https://www.kohls.com/ecom/valueadded/Glossary.htm

 

With best wishes,

 

Astrid

Thank you Astrid.

Good info!

[Susan R]

On 9/11/2019 at 12:43 AM, mini said:

hello just wanted to say hello

Welcome mini,  I just wanted to say 'hello' back.  The others in this thread have given you a pretty good starting point if you decide to move forward on this journey.  It's nice to meet you and hope to read more about your progress along the way.  I wish you the best.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

[mini]

hi thank all of you for your comments and  been taking your advice and looking through the different subjects and comments. its great to have support even if i am not sure yet.

 

thank you