Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Mary Jane

So am I trans

Recommended Posts

Mary Jane

I’m asking this because I’m still not fully sure and I don’t have any solid proof that I’m trans but here is what I know (by the way I’m a male right now) i from time to time want to wear something’s that girls can wear or super colourful clothes, I kind of want to play some games meant for girls, from time to time I want to paint my nails, and last but not least i think I prefer hanging out with girls more than other boys (this last one might just be because I’ve had bad experiences with almost every boy but not with any that’s in my family

Share this post

Link to post

Hello and welcome Markjvp.  Not being sure is a common feeling.  The fact that you are questioning is enough for you to follow up with more questions and possibly look to therapy to investigate deeply.  Why don't you post a little about yourself at the Introductions sub-forum so we can all meet you?  



Share this post

Link to post

Hi! And Welcome! A Gender therapist can help you with a lot of your questions 

Just now, Jani said:

post a little about yourself at the Introductions sub-forum so we can all meet you?  

And posting more, can help us help you better.


Sometimes it takes a bit of investigating, researching, and doing what feels natural to you, to find out what you really want from life. Just because the answers might not leap right out at you doesn’t mean it isn’t there. I knew what I wanted since I was little, but didn’t understand what it meant because I didn’t have any references. Back in the day we didn’t have the internet or places like LGBTQ community groups, that are as available as they are now. Back in 2005, after I moved near a Friendly neighborhood, I felt I could learn more, and be more like myself. If you feel comfortable enough to visit friendly areas, and or get a gender therapist, you might begin to understand what your feeling better. 

Do what makes you feel happy, and comfortable, but be safe too. I hope your have a wonderful Journey! 

Share this post

Link to post

A rule of thumb is this:  If you are questioning your gender to any degree,, you are not Cis Gender.  Cis Gender people will not develop those questions or have a moment of pause in their lives.  It does no harm to place yourself somewhere in the realm of Transgender people.  What you need to find out is what that place is with as much or LITTLE change as makes you comfortable.  For some it can be as little as a wildly colored bow tie as a trademark fashion accessory, and the same for rainbow socks.  For others maybe longer hair with possibly a pastel hair color works its magic.  No change in your upper or lower body is required to be Trans.  Some of us do need to make those changes but we are the tiniest particle of the Trans population,but the one Cis people think is the rule.  


It has already been suggested that you find a licensed Therapist who is familiar with gender issues, and I most heartily agree there.  They can help you look at your own life without judgment or fear and come to a point where you will be comfortable in your own skin.  This is a journey that you do not have to be scared of and there is no shame in it.  All of us that post here are at some part of our own Gender Journey and while it is not what we expected to get out of life, it is what we have. 

Share this post

Link to post
3 hours ago, VickySGV said:

This is a journey that you do not have to be scared of and there is no shame in it.

THIS ^^^

Share this post

Link to post

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    No registered users viewing this page.

  • Who's Online   2 Members, 0 Anonymous, 80 Guests (See full list)

    • dianeT68
    • Kylie
  • Topics With Zero Replies

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
    • Total Posts
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
    • Most Online

    Newest Member
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. -Lucky_Deity-
      (23 years old)
    2. Violet_R
      (24 years old)
  • Posts

    • tracy_j
      Some were a bit negative but most accepted in time. I once joked with someone about dating when he showed a photo of himself dressed for a formal night out. I am not sure how impressed he was but it didn't totally go down like a lead balloon lol.   That said, quite a number of people did see me in a new light and became far friendlier than previously. Dating - maybe no, but friendships yes.   Tracy
    • Mia Marie
      congrats on getting your labs. don't be surprised if it takes longer than a week to get your scripts done so you can start taking your hrt. I got my labs done last week and it has been over a week and I still havent heard from my doctor on her assessment of my results. still hoping I can get my hrt before my next doc appointment.
    • Susan R
      Don’t worry @Sandra6sandy9sand. I can’t wait to get my ballot in the ballot box.  We need some real change and fast. The saying...If you don’t vote, you can’t complain...is so true. Let’s get out there and do it!   Susan R🌷
    • Kylara Anne Bagwell
      Sorry for the latent response here I knew I had read it before but I could not for the life of me remember where I had read it. How do I start a blog? Where do I go to do this...
    • Lexi C
      Hey Mex We all do that. Jackie is right it dose  take a lot of confidence and courage to wake up and be happy with you.  I know that sounds like some stupid Hallmark bull, but 2 yr ago i was ready to end it. I get the bills the booze  and wrote out a will. I took the bills drank the booze. Had the craziest nightmare. The next day i did not die,, i piss off. But it gave me some hope. Today i still get depress but not as bad and i stop judge myself against other CIS. Just head down , work save,  continue to fight  medical for my surgeries and work out.   Be safe, be proud and be happy being you            
    • KayC
      Congratulations, Emily! on your commitment to self improvement and the opportunity for compassionate service to your fellow human beings. You've made a great choice.  Now, go and get it❣️
    • KayC
      That's a great post @Sandra6sandy9sand!  thank you for sharing your thoughts and connecting with what I am sure many of us are feeling. Regardless of our personal situations or differences, if somebody cannot see how interconnected we are by Covid and societies problems then they are truly lost.  This is actually a great opportunity for a fundamental change in America's "constitution" and direction (i.e., America's social conscious and morality ... not the actual Constitution... I agree it hasn't changed)   VOTE 2020❣️  
    • KayC
      That's a great attitude Leah, and that you have been able to settle into a comfortable place.   I see the value of therapy for myself (and others here I assume) as helping us to find our inner voice and start to live truly as we feel we should.  Its difficult to sometimes deal with the negative feelings as we may try to convince ourselves that the path to our journey should follow societies expectations. I hate labels, I hate the idea that we are somehow required to declare/come out, but I also know that's the reality that society places on us. YES!  I agree❣️❣️❣️  
    • Andrea Jean
      My name was simple the female form of Andrew and used my moms middle name to honor her...
    • MomTGDaughter
      My daughter is a little shy about her transition. First of all, after nearly 5 months, she looks like a girl and hard to distinguish otherwise, especially at her young age. How did it workout for you or your daughter? School is not going to start right away in person, however it will be online and he name is very feminine. The school faculty has been updated about her new status, but the students don't know as of yet. I appreciate you sharing your experiences so I can better prepare her. 
    • HollyNoel
      OK so here might be a fun question for everyone.   After you started presenting as either a woman or man, have you ever either dated someone you knew, like a guy friend or a girl friend, or have you been hit on buy someone you knew? I would love to know if transitioning changed the friend dynamic or made old friends think differently about you. You don't have to respond and you don't have to get specific with any details. I'm just curious if old friends see you as a completely different person after your transition.
    • TransMex
      I compare the way I look with how other women look a lot. That's practically all I do all day at this point. I want to look like them.
    • HollyNoel
      Bri2020, I wish you luck, just know that what ever happens, you have us to get support from.. Did you like the duct tape hair removal thing.. lol
    • HollyNoel
      I had my first gender therapy session last Tuesday. I told her thatb I've always known that I was a girl fron the youngest age and that I wished I could have switched places with my sister. I told her that when I finally told my mom I felt like a giant crushing weight had been lifted off my chest. At this point in my life I feel I'm ready to have the surgery but I know they want to make sure I'm sure thats what I really want. I feel that that is the best course of action. I may feel I'm ready but I haven't even lived as a woman yet. Though I still feel I'm ready. I wont regret having it. Been a dream of mine since I was 12.
    • Bri2020
      I'm in the hair removal process anyways so.....     Thanks everyone for your thoughts. Lots to think about.
  • Upcoming Events

  • Create New...