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I’m asking this because I’m still not fully sure and I don’t have any solid proof that I’m trans but here is what I know (by the way I’m a male right now) i from time to time want to wear something’s that girls can wear or super colourful clothes, I kind of want to play some games meant for girls, from time to time I want to paint my nails, and last but not least i think I prefer hanging out with girls more than other boys (this last one might just be because I’ve had bad experiences with almost every boy but not with any that’s in my family

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Hello and welcome Markjvp.  Not being sure is a common feeling.  The fact that you are questioning is enough for you to follow up with more questions and possibly look to therapy to investigate deeply.  Why don't you post a little about yourself at the Introductions sub-forum so we can all meet you?  



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Hi! And Welcome! A Gender therapist can help you with a lot of your questions 

Just now, Jani said:

post a little about yourself at the Introductions sub-forum so we can all meet you?  

And posting more, can help us help you better.


Sometimes it takes a bit of investigating, researching, and doing what feels natural to you, to find out what you really want from life. Just because the answers might not leap right out at you doesn’t mean it isn’t there. I knew what I wanted since I was little, but didn’t understand what it meant because I didn’t have any references. Back in the day we didn’t have the internet or places like LGBTQ community groups, that are as available as they are now. Back in 2005, after I moved near a Friendly neighborhood, I felt I could learn more, and be more like myself. If you feel comfortable enough to visit friendly areas, and or get a gender therapist, you might begin to understand what your feeling better. 

Do what makes you feel happy, and comfortable, but be safe too. I hope your have a wonderful Journey! 

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A rule of thumb is this:  If you are questioning your gender to any degree,, you are not Cis Gender.  Cis Gender people will not develop those questions or have a moment of pause in their lives.  It does no harm to place yourself somewhere in the realm of Transgender people.  What you need to find out is what that place is with as much or LITTLE change as makes you comfortable.  For some it can be as little as a wildly colored bow tie as a trademark fashion accessory, and the same for rainbow socks.  For others maybe longer hair with possibly a pastel hair color works its magic.  No change in your upper or lower body is required to be Trans.  Some of us do need to make those changes but we are the tiniest particle of the Trans population,but the one Cis people think is the rule.  


It has already been suggested that you find a licensed Therapist who is familiar with gender issues, and I most heartily agree there.  They can help you look at your own life without judgment or fear and come to a point where you will be comfortable in your own skin.  This is a journey that you do not have to be scared of and there is no shame in it.  All of us that post here are at some part of our own Gender Journey and while it is not what we expected to get out of life, it is what we have. 

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3 hours ago, VickySGV said:

This is a journey that you do not have to be scared of and there is no shame in it.

THIS ^^^

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