We dutifully do as we are expected. Long after military service when in the civilian workforce someone showed me a nude trans woman standing against a doorjamb totally perfect in every respect except for the (ugh) male package and I went WHAT...REALLY? It opened a new door of reality for me!
Well you got that out of the way and can put a check by her box. You are not responsible for anyone else's feelings or their happiness, they have a choice of either making themselves happy or unhappy based on what's going on inside of their heads. It's their problem to work through and not yours. You and I cannot make anyone else happy outside of our own selves. Keep that in mind!
I tend to agree with you NB. I have little memory of anything no less feelings from my childhood. I recall when my first feeling I was different around my teen years. Reinforced by a few trips to the doctors to “fix me”. I remember the. “Your a boy. You should be doing boy things” talks too. I don’t remember not doing boy things to be honest. Or doing girl things. I was a kid.
I got tired of the doctor visits by my late teens so I decided to just hide it and be the male everyone wanted from me. Not the wisest choice I know.
I finally broke down and asked my mother if she got my email. She has been sick and in bed for a few days and said no not yet. Asked me to resend it. So I did. She replied not long after.
It started out so good with love and “full” support for me.
Then my mother’s attitude seem to change about two sentences later.
It was full of “advice” which was more like conditions and opinions on what I “need” to do.
first she said I need to slow down and really think about how this is going to effect everybody and to not be do hasty. Then a list of people I definitely should not tell and she promises not to tell a soul. Then a timeline of who “I can tell” and finally a good ole reaming of why do I want to lose my home family and wife just so I can dress like a girl.
(cue nuclear explosions )
I was not happy and let her have it.
Then she starts in on my sister who was trying to save face and help but it did not go well for her either.
Now I can understand a shocked reaction especially for a parent but she was more focused on just how we can manage the damage and keep it all hidden.
OMG I was so angry. So hurt.
She acts like “What? I am just trying to help HIM”. (Cue super nova)
yea it was an interesting afternoon and evening.
But on the positive side. She now knows.
I have tried wig shampoos, and generally, they have worked okay for me. I use Woolite mostly to ensure I'm treating my wigs very gently, and you are correct, Woolite is cheaper.
I do not store my wigs on Styrofoam heads for two reasons. First, I don't want to stretch the wig cap, they get enough stretching when I wear them, and second, storing them in boxes keeps them from getting dusty and they don't take up nearly as much space.
This ic currently a News Item, but it is toward Trans youngsters and families, and yes, communities.
Hey! Here’s something for all the FtM trans kiddos out there (even if you’re an adult)!
1. You are valid as HECK!
2. People care for you!
3. Things may seem hard now, but they will get better!
4. You are LOVED!
5. You are very handsome!
6. Stay strong!
7. Nobody wants you gone
8. You don’t have to go it alone
9. You are kind
10. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Now here’s a cookie 🍪