Positive tipping point

[NatalieT1974]

After a very rough and highly emotional few days, last night I hit a bit of a tipping point with my wife.
She was very angry and went to my eldest daughter’s house. 
My daughter reached out to me and I went and spoke with her in the car, whilst my wife stayed inside the house.

My daughter knew nothing of the real me until the weekend, but had been researching and was quite well informed. We had a very open and honest conversation which was also very emotional. She was incredibly understanding and supportive.

After we had spoken, I came home and my wife arrived home about an hour later. We had our first positive conversation since this all came out. She was much more understanding, but just very sad that we won’t be growing old together as we had always planned.

The conversation ended with us hugging and her telling me that we’ll get through this, although we will be divorcing. She even confirmed that she’ll support me with other elements like electrolysis.

This morning there was another hug and I hope that we can move on through what will be a difficult journey together.

Sorry for the long post.

Natalie x

[TommieAnne]

Positive is good.

Sorry to hear things are a struggle for those around you, that has to weigh on you.

#hug#

So glad your daughter is suppotive.

[Jani]

That's good that your daughter is informed enough to have an open mind and that she could have a good talk with your wife.  I'm sorry about the divorce news.  Maybe things will get better as you progress since it seems your wife is more understanding now.  Hopefully acceptance will come.  

[ShawnaLeigh]

I am sorry you had such a hard coming out.  I can only imagine it is quite difficult for a spouse to be faced with this and trying to decide for themselves how they would, or could, deal with this.  Even if they suspect somethings "off" it must still be a shock.  Sadly for some they never can get over it.  My first wife was very accepting and things were fabulous.  We shopped we did make up, etc.  Then we divorced a year later and she said she just could not deal with it.  Me still being in the military kept it well hidden so for her it was just a little "fun" we shared in privacy.  Once it developed she could not deal.  I did not blame her as it was not what she signed up for.  I was crushed.

 

I'm now faced with telling yet another spouse and I do not know how she will lean.  I am scared to death.   I expect a lot anger and hostility up front.  From there I am not sure.  Although she seems very accepting to others in our community, its quite a different ball of wax accepting it in your home and marriage.

Best wishes to you and I truly hope your wife has a change of hear t as time goes by...