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My name isn’t Megan

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So shaving is boring and lasts for three days. After tweezing all my upper lip hair, I discovered that was more effective, but just as boring. So I think my next experiment will be waxing! Looking for tips and advice on how to get started waxing at home! 

 

Thanks! 

                    Megan ❤️

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Please by all that is holy or evil DO NOT try waxing on your beard areas, face or neck.  We had one member who tried it and sent pictures from the hospital where they were kept for a while with some serious problems.  They took the pictures down because they were too triggering or I would show them to anyone who thinks about trying it.  I do have my eyebrow's waxed these days, but that it 10 years on HRT as well.  Best bet is to save up for either Laser (semi permanent) or Electrolysis but their prep time and treatment times are also a bit painful and boring, but  nothing like the beard waxing will be.  Lucky you to last three days between shaves though.   There is no safe way to do beard waxing and we do not advocate self harm in any way on this forum.  (Last statement made with Admin Hat on.)

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Ouch ? so there’s nothing to be done aside from shaving? Thanks much for the warning!!

 

On that note, I’m still curious what can be done aside from electrolysis and treatments like it. Can I use an epilator designed for the face effectively? Also, I’m curious about waxing/epilating on the rest of the body. 

 

Thanks again!

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Unfortunately their isn't much that can be done besides shaving, laser or electrolysis for hair removal.  They all have their good and bad points.  Waxing or epilating is just pulling the hairs out so it's not a permanent solution and there is the risk of ingrown hairs.  As Vicky says, NEVER do this on the face.  The hair there is different than the rest of the body and your skin there is much more tender and will react poorly.  

2 hours ago, My name isn’t Megan said:

Can I use an epilator designed for the face effectively?

No!  That is just marketing.  There is no safe way to pull hair from your face.  

 

Save up and do it right, permanently.

 

Jani

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4 hours ago, My name isn’t Megan said:

Can I use an epilator designed for the face effectively?

 

Jani is right on her response, epilators that say they are safe for a face are only for Cis women's faces and beyond menopause that is no longer true either.  If you have to shave, your face hair had T when it started to grow and they will hurt rather than help.  They are not marketed for MtF folks to use.  That is why Trans youth get puberty blockers.

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I will tell you I have never done waxing. I have seem some horrible pics of MTF and CIS fail attempts.  I am on 14 hrs of electrolysis. Its expensive and painful as F. However, with Elect the hair has less of chance of grow back then laser...BUT DO NOT WAX YOUR FACE...Be Proud , be safe and kick ASS

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One suggestion that did come to my mind on this one in a positive way, you speak of boredom, but take the shaving time and use it as a little bit of feminine face care time as well, with girl brand face cleansers and moisturizers that will help your face skin, and can make the upcoming actions of hair removal easier by a little bit. 

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So to clarify, I should avoid using wax and epilators on any part of my body? I’d love to wax/epilate my legs and arms if possible. 

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1 hour ago, My name isn’t Megan said:

So to clarify, I should avoid using wax and epilators on any part of my body?

 

For body parts other than your beard area, they are reasonably safe IF you follow the directions, but are a bigger problem if you are not on HRT for several months.  Male hair fed by Testosterone is heavier, and more painful to remove.  Moisturizing before using them will help get the skin ready and help it heal faster.  Watch for any rashes or bumps that could be ingrown hairs that are super painful, and get to a doctor if they develop into infected sores.  Do as you see fit, but know the risks. 

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Are there any good resources that you recommend that’ll guide me through using an epilator safely? 

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10 hours ago, My name isn’t Megan said:

Are there any good resources that you recommend that’ll guide me through using an epilator safely?

 

Begin with the instructions that come with each epilator. Buy a brand new one in an unopened box an the instruction sheet will be there.  Follow the skin prep instructions which may be baby oil, or soap, or nothing at all.  I know there are some Topics here on the forums as well that go into doing it. 

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I'm not claiming any wisdom, but I can state that for me the instructions that called for exfoliating the skin regularly weren't highlighted, bolded, underlined nearly enough. Because I'm prone to having ingrown hair otherwise.

Aside from that, the epilator works nicely. Smooth for a few weeks!

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Does anyone have a recommended model of epilator for a starter? Nothing too pricey, but not cheap!

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3 hours ago, My name isn’t Megan said:

Does anyone have a recommended model of epilator for a starter? Nothing too pricey, but not cheap!

There's a thread with some discussion of these things in the Mtf section on hair removal, I think. Biggest decision I think is cordless/waterproof  (for use in the shower) vs. corded/not waterproof.

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48 minutes ago, TammyAnne said:

There's a thread with some discussion of these things in the Mtf section on hair removal, I think. Biggest decision I think is cordless/waterproof  (for use in the shower) vs. corded/not waterproof.

Well poo.

Your thread is in that section and I don't see the topic I suggested you look at there.

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Perhaps someone smarter than i can point you there.

But to continue, corded epilators are less expensive than the battery operated waterproof ones. Depends on where and how you will use it. I opted for the plug in kind with a cord, an item recommended by Amazon and have been happy with it.

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Does it matter if the epilator specified if it’s for men or women? I see a lot of the top rated ones on Amazon are “for women”, even if I search specifically for own deigned for male hair. 

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Thanks for this posting, some wisdom is timeless! The thought had crossed my mind, "I wonder how waxing would do on my face." I no longer wonder.

 

Have a beautiful day!

Delcina

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Glad I found this discussion!  I got an idea from one person to try a process of waxing followed by electrolysis. Bounced this idea off my electrologist and was told it's the worst thing to do, because any form of yanking out hair, (waxing, plucking, etc) can distort the follicles and make future electrolysis attempts less effective and possibly impossible.  She made mention of it being dangerous enough to land me in the hospital though.  Anyways I'm adding all the conflicting/confusing information about facial waxing together and making a decision to never try it.  

 

I will, however try finding a new electrologist, because I keep sensing little warning signs that the one I have now is not the best person to be working on my face.  

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