So I came out to my mom...

[MayBeNicolas]

Whew- That was pretty stressful. I found a ftm coming out song on YouTube... and decided tonight I would come out. And I did. I was really stressed and euphoria and fear were eating me as I sung along to the lyrics... So, afterwards she said “I love you, we’ll talk more about this later.” 

 

Im still kinda scared but she didn’t mind me being bi so I know she’s kinda accepting, but she’s also kinda quick to jump to conclusions and assume I’m confused or it’s a phase, and it really puts me down. I mean at least my coming out story isn’t to dramatic so far. Might update on this when she “talks to me later.” Also, I’m kinda unsure if I’m gonna post this because I’m kinda new so yeah.

 

                 Stay strong,

                                      Stay proud,

 

~from Nico

[tracy_j]

Hi Nico, welcome to Trans Pulse.

 

Coming out is a major step as you are finding. It often is not a single action but a continuous process that lasts a while. The 'coming out' is just the start of the acceptance process. Be ready to discuss things rationally and try to avoid arguments which will create barriers hence raising problems. You may find you need to go with the flow a little while you both adjust to the change. It will help your mom to realise that you have not really changed and that you can become even closer with better understanding of each other.

 

Please don't hesitate to read around here, ask questions and join in as you feel. You will likely become more relaxed as you realise you are not alone and people are friendly here. You may like to post an introduction in the introductions area and get to know people but please don't feel under any obligation as it isn't a requirement or expected.

 

Tracy

[TommieAnne]

Welcome MayBeNicolas!

I'm glad to hear that your coming out discussion went much better than you feared.

Wishing you well as your journey progresses.

Hugs!

[Maid In Bedlam]

Hello MayBeNicolas. You just maybe or you are now?

 

I ask after your introduction  and events you relayed in your post.

 

Im curious. Did you come out as Bi or did you come out as female to male?

 

What more could you ask for other than a mum to say "I love you"

 

many get a negative reaction. But im glad yours was positive and i hope you can build from it and also hope the chat later is very productive for both of you.

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Nico,

One thing I've learned from experience is that when we make assumptions about others reactions, we are sometimes wrong. It sounds pretty good so far. Good luck!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf ?

[Jani]

Hello Nico and welcome.  I understand the stress you are under but it will pass.  You're in a safe place here where you can talk with others and ask questions without fear. 

 

Jani

[NB Adult]

Hi Nico!

 

It's been my observation that moms will generally react well initially, rather than start a screaming session because it will always drive her child further away from her and cause her to dig in her heels and then the walls have gone up. A smart mom will remain composed and take time to assimilate all the new and scary information coming at her from her child. Come hell or high water moms rarely throw the baby under the bus that they carried for nine months, loved and nurtured. 

 

Dads can be another matter, sometimes they resort to lots of bluster and negativity. But in the final analysis mom has the final word concerning his behavior toward the child. 

[MayBeNicolas]

Awww, thank you all. All of your responses really helped. I came out as bi a year ago and just last night (right before I posted This) I had came out as ftm. 

 

tbh I expected much worse, and Rn I’m going by, Nico, or Nicolas because I’m still debating potential names.