Hi and welcome Adrian!
I also enjoy singing, playing my guitar, and painting and drawing.
The creative outlets help me deal with life's frustrations.
Great group of supportive people here.
It's a good place!
This is wonderful news Shelly! I know you'll be please with the results as everything I'll heard about Facial Team has been very good. Sounds like you got to tour a little around Marbella too!
I've actually started T while still living with my parents, and they don't know I'm trans. I've always dressed in masculine ways, had short-ish hair, and enjoyed masculine activities more than feminine ones. I've never been a girly-girl, no matter how hard my Mom tried to make me one! I was able to blame most of the "masculinity" on sensory comfort since I'm on the autism spectrum (Asperger's), but I'm mostly in the closet as a trans man. I've told two close friends, some supportive coworkers, and a couple of distant relatives, but my immediate family still doesn't know.
I told my parents that I was starting T as an unconventional treatment for some medical conditions, since I knew voice changes would happen quickly and I didn't want to freak them out too badly. It worked. I sound almost as deep as my brother, and they just don't realize what's REALLY going on! My therapist and I are making a plan for telling them the truth when I don't have to depend on them financially anymore, and I'm really looking forward to doing so, but I know it won't be a comfortable discussion. It's why I'm still closeted. I'll have to tell them right before top surgery, I'm sure, which is when I'll be socially and legally transitioning (during recovery).
All that to say, yes, I started transitioning LOOOOOOONG before I came out.
Yeah I knew from the start that was where you were headed, it's not her though, it's you! Look at your record, and we're suppose to underwrite what you are doing? I know the others here don't have the nerve to confront this sort of thing, I do and I want you to reconsider what you are doing and ask yourself if your marriage is just another convenience for you, or were you actually serious about the vows you took and did you actually love her at all? Think about it, you don't have to be embarrassed, we will support you if you are making any kind of effort to make it work. She married you for better or for worse, she's trying to make it work in spite of everything.
...then your invited to your wife’s room for an afternoon of sex. For hours. I’m not going to kiss n tell but it was fabulous. It was loving and special and tender It was also mostly lesbian sex. (-what the heck-).
Talk about giving confusing signals.
Just when she has me resolved to eventually moving out due to “not wanting to be a lesbian In our marriage ” I get an afternoon like this.
I don’t need confusion right now. Mixed signals. I have no idea why or if she is just trying it to see or what.
For me It is boiling down to she does not want me if I’m going to be the true me. Which makes me very hurt and very angry. Spurring on my pride to just end it. But I won’t. Not yet.
Im not ready financially to go out on my own.
Aaashhhhhrrrgggg. I feel trapped.
I’m at a tipping point where I love her dearly and our home and life. Ours plans for retirement but I am also ready for a positive change. To find someone who can give me what I want and need. I am tired of being the “guy” in our marriage and she is being so nice lately as my lady friend. I am leaning towards moving on. Even if it starts on a low note.
Sorry for hijacking your post Toni.
but thanks just the same. ❤️
Personally, I’m also not the most “masculine” guy. I’m only about 5ft 1in too, which doesn’t help my situation, but my boyfriend and art classs are very supportive. I’m pre-op, and only half of my friends know that I’m trans. I’m absolutely frightened of telling the other half, especially my father, but those that know are very supportive and sweet and I love them dearly. Many have said that I’m nonbinary for how I dress, but I’m not. I love the color pink, think makeup is simply an expression of one’s self (but don’t think it’s for me as much as it’s fun for me to do for others) no matter one’s gender, and sing soprano in my music classes. I know that I most certainly identify as male, however, I don’t exactly follow many gender roles or standards that assign to the gender I identify as. I am a trans male, but I find that happiness comes when you yourself are most comfortable, not when making sure everyone else is with you. I can never say that I have experienced what you’ve gone through, and I hope that your situation will get so much better, but please know that there are people like you that care, that matter, and that will be here for you when you need them. Please take care of yourself. I hope the best is to come for you.
I was sexually assaulted by a room mate's boyfriend,this was in mid 1999.My friend Julie whom I started being a room mate with had a boyfriend that wouldn't leave me alone.Had my eyes one me and I wasn't comfortable around him.He did it a few times.Once was when he was over and he touched my right breast loving it.Told me not to report it and I didn't.Second time was touching my right breast.I was at the kitchen sink getting a drink of water.Once again he warned me not to report it.Final straw was when he went up my skirt grabbing my genitilia.He laughed thinking it was funny.Julie saw something was wrong and we talked.I finally told her that her boyfriend sexually abused by her boyfriend.Her eyes lit up knowing there was something going on and I did report it.She did believe .me and was mad at him.She was shocked he had a couple sexual assault convictions on his record and a registered sex offender.Did dump him right away.I did get the help and been doing good ever since.He was found guilty of sexual assault and the judge threw the book at him giving him 25 years base on his record.
I was only out to my stepmom for a very long time because my dad is military so I can understand. Also, come out only when you are ready, never force it. If they don't accept you, they don't deserve you. Have fun at that part, be you man.