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Not so sure about me being transgender anymore


Mary Jane

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Hi again people on one I did before I asked if I was actually trans but now my question is what are something’s I can do to figure out (I’m biologically a boy but I don’t fully feel like one). Also right now my parents just reject the idea of me being transgender so there’s going to be ones that’s harder to do or I’ll need to be patient before being able to do them (because of me being 15 right now and so I live with my parents)

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Hello Mark,

Questioning ourselves is quite the sport with us it seems.  As been written many times, cis-gender persons (generally) do not question their gender.  And that may be one clue for you.  As you are still young, you will find yourself questioning a lot of things in your life.  I know I did.  Try just to be you, who you are.  If it means being less masculine, or more feminine thats fine.  I remember that I wasn't sure who I was at your age but it all works out.  Don't stress about it.  Remember its all right be participate in activities that might be thought of as outside (your) gender norm.   Most importantly, study hard as this will prepare you for a future in which you can support yourself adequately in a manner you desire. 

 

Jani 

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Jani just gave you some great advice Mark.  I know i "wobbled" back and forth in my feelings about gender.  Fortunately i did concentrate on my studies.  Maybe that was more due to the times as in the 60's there was no acceptance at all.  I was afraid of being bullied and disowned by my parents.  

The issue kept coming back over time and eventually the time was right to be myself.  I guess i'm trying to say there is no rush.  Time goes much faster than i thought at 15.  Enjoy today!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hi Mark,

I too have questioned myself, even questioned my questioning. Take your time, sort through this until you find the answers that give you comfort.

In the end, we have to be true to ourselves in order to live our lives in peace and harmony.

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All good advice for you here Mark, it's what makes TransPulse an exceptional support site, there is never any group pressure pushing people into a direction that they may later regret. Take your time and enjoy being yourself in the little things that make you uniquely you.

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1 hour ago, NB Adult said:

All good advice for you here Mark, it's what makes TransPulse an exceptional support site, there is never any group pressure pushing people into a direction that they may later regret. Take your time and enjoy being yourself in the little things that make you uniquely you.

This is spot on too.  I fully agree how helpful it is to just read other members posts and see you are not alone.  When you ask questions you get real answer and support not judgements and internet half turths.

Your are young and under a lot of trials and it is a hard time even without the transgender feelings.  

I am 52 and I am still trying to figure it out.  I've made mistakes and done things not healthy for myself out of desperation.  Like it was said above.  Take your time and do your research.  Coming here was one of the best things I have done.  I am on a path now and hope to find my own self.

Good Luck with yours!

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Thank you for the support ? and I’m kind of starting to feel like I’m actually gender fluid but for now till I’m old enough or till I get out of high school I’m not going to worry that much about my gender but I think I’m gender fluid or transgender

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Markjvp

I find you incredibly brave to start yourself on this journey at such a young age.  I wish I had your bravery at that age.  I let fear rule me for quite a few decades and still under its crippling yolk.  When joining this forum I chose Genderfluid because I don't know for certain.  Even after all these years.

I'm hoping my therapist can help me figure this out

Once you can make your own legal decisions you may find a lot of resources out there that can help too.  At least for now continue in this forum.

Its a wonderful place.

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Nivegnal thank you I wasn’t this open or brave when I was grade 3 to about grade 7 because of bullies but thanks to multiple things including the people here at transpulse I’m getting more and more opens and brave on things I wasn’t brave at before

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Grade 3 to grade 7!!   Wow I didn't know anything back then.  My first awareness was around 12 or 13 years old, I don't recall exactly.  Just remember being taken to a "regular" doctor and my mother being told it was just a phase I would grow out of.

I say brave because you are seeking answers and finding them.  I understand bullies too.  In my day and age there was zero tolerance for people like us.  You were "normal" or you hid it with everything you were and more.  Confess nothing and admit less.  Play your part or else.

Its nice things are not like that now a days.

Take care and keep reading.  Knowledge is power.

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5 hours ago, Nivegnal said:

I say brave because you are seeking answers and finding them.  I understand bullies too.  In my day and age there was zero tolerance for people like us.  You were "normal" or you hid it with everything you were and more.  Confess nothing and admit less.  Play your part or else.

Its nice things are not like that now a days.

Take care and keep reading.  Knowledge is power.

I'm also glad we as a society seem to have moved past a dark period. Bullying haunted me through high school and into college.

Keep searching for yourself, don't be too concerned with tacking on a label. Being your authentic self is all that you need to do.

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