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Dannie

Just wanted to say hi 👋 my name is Dannie I am 59 M/F I’m looking forward to getting to know you all. I Finally started therapy for GID, and my therapist gave me the OK to start HRT! I am happy about it, but scared of what the future is going to be like. My wife knows I am transgender and has from the beginning of our relationship. I stopped CD a couple of years ago, it just got to depressing after 50 yrs. It felt like just another lie on top of a life of lies. I still have to lie, only my therapist and wife know am transgender. I was watching Jackie’s Couch and she mentioned this web site so here I am😊

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Jani

Welcome Dannie.  Thanks for sharing.  Yes @jae bear (Jackie) is a big supporter of the site.  She's on quite the journey herself.  Congratulations on being able to start HRT.  I hope your wife will be all right with the changes it brings.  You will get happier as (with most of us) it will calm you down somewhat.  The physical changes will be what they are but you'll be happy with them too!  As you've seen, gender dysphoria doesn't go away and it does eventually bubble back up.  Speaking with a therapist is a good start to being honest as you sort things out.  Remember you only have to proceed as far and fast as you need to feel in control.  There are those who for family or financial reasons take low dose HRT and live their current life outside the home.  There is never any pressure here to follow any specific route.  Each journey is unique.   Please join in the conversation! 

Cheers, Jani

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Lexi C

hey Jani on point.Good Luck. Be Proud, Be save and Kick Ass

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NB Adult

Welcome Dannie!

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jae bear

Good to see you Dannie!

i’m so glad that you came here to the site, everyone here is absolutely amazing, I’m so glad to hear that you’re doing what it takes to take care of yourself, starting with a therapist is really and truly the best way anyone could start. I received that very information from Jani myself, and I am so grateful to her and the others for suggesting that’s where I start, it was the single best thing I ever did during my transition!

Great big hugs,

Jackie

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Carolyn Marie

Hello, Dannie, and welcome to Trans Pulse.  There are many of us here who got the transition bug later in life, but late is better (much better) than never.  Please feel free to ask all the questions you want.  We'll do our best to answer them, and there is no question too mundane.   Congrats on HRT, and get on board the Womanhood Express!!  It's an E-ticket ride.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Maid In Bedlam

Hello Dannie. Welcome to the site.

 

Hope to see you around.

 

Look forwald to your input.

 

 

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gennee

Hi Dannie and welcome.

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ShawnaLeigh

Welcome to the family.  I am new here and found a wonderful place to learn and open up. 
Good luck on your journey 

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TammyAnne

Hi Dannie!

Welcome. It's a very good place to be to make sense of things.

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Susan R

NIce to meet you, @Dannie!  Welcome to our little community.  You and I are very close in age.  I'm sure we have some commonalities in our life histories.  Feel free to post your experiences or questions in regards to your journey.  I know I'd sure enjoy reading about them as would many here as well.  I'm glad you found us.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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SaraAW

Hi Dannie and welcome. 

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Dannie

Thank you all for such a wonderful and warm welcome 

Love and hugs Dannie

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