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Typical high school stuff


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I am at the age where everyone starts dating one another and there are breakups left and right. I kinda just chill unnoticed, which is a good and bad thing lol. I am an easily flustered person, but I know how to flirt(sometimes). 

 

The other day I saw a really cute girl while on my way home, we kinda just looked at each other then, like an idiot, I just gave her a really awkward smile and she laughed. I got really embarrassed and just went on with my day. But I also feel really close to one of my friends who respects me as a man, we talk to each other with every opportunity we get, but sadly I am grounded from my phone (Long story I might post later) and he doesn't have social media. School is the only time we spend together, and the bus. We both really like a show called "Jojo's bizarre adventures" and are constantly making references to the show. Another really cool dude I recently met is actually a cross-dresser, which I find really cool and might invite them to this website. 

 

I have dated before and held hands, but that's as far as I have gone, I refused to kiss my last partner, because I wasn't comfortable since we had just started dating. (I low-key dodged him) 

 

From time to time I feel lonely and wish I could have someone special like all my friends, I get tossed aside because sex is not the first thing on my mind, I just want them to know I am after their heart and not after what's in their pants. You would think being bisexual would make it easier to find a girlfriend or boyfriend, ha. Of course I am not throwing myself at people, I will be patient and let time to its thing.

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I don't have any great, or not so great, recommendations except to say that i'm sure you will find special friends in time.  I remember being where you are now and how desperate things seemed.  Life fortunately goes on and solves so many of the problems we have today.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Bottom line is that you come off as a sweet person, which is a plus for you as eventually you are going to win someone's heart.

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10 hours ago, Aidan5 said:

I am at the age where everyone starts dating one another and there are breakups left and right. I kinda just chill unnoticed, which is a good and bad thing lol. I am an easily flustered person, but I know how to flirt(sometimes). 

 

The other day I saw a really cute girl while on my way home, we kinda just looked at each other then, like an idiot, I just gave her a really awkward smile and she laughed. I got really embarrassed and just went on with my day. But I also feel really close to one of my friends who respects me as a man, we talk to each other with every opportunity we get, but sadly I am grounded from my phone (Long story I might post later) and he doesn't have social media. School is the only time we spend together, and the bus. We both really like a show called "Jojo's bizarre adventures" and are constantly making references to the show. Another really cool dude I recently met is actually a cross-dresser, which I find really cool and might invite them to this website. 

 

I have dated before and held hands, but that's as far as I have gone, I refused to kiss my last partner, because I wasn't comfortable since we had just started dating. (I low-key dodged him) 

 

From time to time I feel lonely and wish I could have someone special like all my friends, I get tossed aside because sex is not the first thing on my mind, I just want them to know I am after their heart and not after what's in their pants. You would think being bisexual would make it easier to find a girlfriend or boyfriend, ha. Of course I am not throwing myself at people, I will be patient and let time to its thing.

 

Yeah, I can relate. I dated a little in high school (senior year) but for the most part I couldn't buy a date until I was in my 20s. From what other FtMs have told me you're also going to look younger than you are because of the HRT. A lot of MtFs grow a beard because it helps cover up the baby-face.

 

As a total aside, one of my very best friends from junior high identifies as bi-gendered. He's really active in the trans community and I wished he lived closer so I could pick his brain for makeup tricks.

 

I'm getting off topic. I think it's mostly because we're not comfortable in our own skins yet and prospective partners pick up on that subconsciously. For example, while I was chronically dateless, I had a ton of female friends who would tell me every little detail about their lives. Which, strangely, made me feel more at home because I enjoy just being one of the girls.

 

And there I go again. So yeah, High School is rough on trans-kids. It's better than it was in the 80s in some ways, probably worse in others. I was just glad to be done with it. Dating happens when it happens. You'll find somebody when you're ready. Then you'll dramatically flame out a couple of times (maybe a lot of times) until you find the right someone to spend the rest of your life with. Or at least the next couple of years. Marriage isn't a fairy tale. It's more work than you think and if one of you isn't putting in the effort, it'll fall apart.

 

But that's life. You live it day to day and grab what happiness you can, you know?

 

Hugs!

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4 hours ago, NB Adult said:

Bottom line is that you come off as a sweet person, which is a plus for you as eventually you are going to win someone's heart.

Truth.  Every time this will work for you vs against you.  The right person just needs to see it.  They are out there right now 

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15 hours ago, Aidan5 said:

but I also feel really close to one of my friends who respects me as a man

When I got with my partner, we had already been close friends of almost a year. we already had a good chemistry with each other and us getting together didn't change much in our interaction outside of "I love you" at the end of conversations and a few flirtatious jokes and comments (I mean I also borrow his hoodies but he did that with our mutual close friend before we started dating). so don't be nervous about a relationship with a close friend especially if you have good chemistry togeher

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Thanks to everyone who commented advice and some insight on their own experiences with dating. I really do appreciate it. For now I am just going to sit back and observe the chaos of relationships haha. If someone has an eye on me I would have no clue, because I am oblivious to flirting half the time. Anyways, thanks again everyone :) 

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2 hours ago, Aidan5 said:

 If someone has an eye on me I would have no clue, because I am oblivious to flirting half the time.

 

Ugh, SUCH a guy. ?

 

Hugs!

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4 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

Ugh, SUCH a guy. ?

 

Hugs!

That comment made me laugh, and it made my day.

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