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Employee is suing Dunkin donuts for unlawful termination and discrimination

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Josie Beth

This isn’t as uncommon as you would think and even a common tactic of managers/supervisors. They lead the employee to believe they are given permission to be excused from work and then fire them without proper procedure. I’ve had this done to me twice. It’s even worse when it’s someone who is discriminating against a transgender person. 

 

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NB Adult

Ugh, Poor woman! My gut tells me that corporate will throw that management team under the bus.

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ShawnaLeigh

This is terrible.  Hopefully she gets everything due to her.

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Jackie C.

Unfortunately, discrimination for sexual orientation or being trans is not illegal in most of PA. It's legal at the state level. Banned in the more populous cities.

Also not a hate crime in PA.

There is a state-wide executive order from the governor though that's supposed to be protecting her.

So having read that over, what a marvelously convoluted mess. It looks like the courts are likely to be on her side though. Interestingly, she needs to file with the PA Human Rights Commission. It doesn't appear to have much in the way of teeth though. I also learned I can do the same thing in my home state, so that's something.

 

1 hour ago, NB Adult said:

Ugh, Poor woman! My gut tells me that corporate will throw that management team under the bus.

 

Yeah, that's my gut reaction too. They'll pull the lizard defense by shedding their tail to save the company from liability. That doesn't protect "Jane Doe" from further harassment by the community though. I hope she can find work somewhere less terrible. No, I hope she can build a life somewhere less terrible.

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53 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

Yeah, that's my gut reaction too. They'll pull the lizard defense by shedding their tail to save the company from liability. That doesn't protect "Jane Doe" from further harassment by the community though. I hope she can find work somewhere less terrible. No, I hope she can build a life somewhere less terrible.

 

Unfortunately a large segment of the population will never accept trans-ness in any form, it goes back to the basic personal choice of not liking or accepting someone or some people often for illogical reasons and has lass to do with someone's religious upbringing. Often times haters have no established moral codes other than their own brand of self righteousness. We can make all the laws in the world in an attempt to quell it, but bottom line is no law will change what goes on in a person't mind and heart. Everyone discriminates in multiple ways, it's just part of the human condition. Knowing that, we have to go about our lives with thick skins and fend off the slings and arrows as best we can, because no one is going to protect us, not even the Supreme Court.

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Jackie C.
41 minutes ago, NB Adult said:

 

Unfortunately a large segment of the population will never accept trans-ness in any form, it goes back to the basic personal choice of not liking or accepting someone or some people often for illogical reasons and has lass to do with someone's religious upbringing. Often times haters have no established moral codes other than their own brand of self righteousness. We can make all the laws in the world in an attempt to quell it, but bottom line is no law will change what goes on in a person't mind and heart. Everyone discriminates in multiple ways, it's just part of the human condition. Knowing that, we have to go about our lives with thick skins and fend off the slings and arrows as best we can, because no one is going to protect us, not even the Supreme Court.

 

Disagree. I still have hope that we can move past this as a species. We're not currently putting in the work, but if we focused on educating people and exposing them to different ways of being human... well, we could stamp it out going forward. We're starting to see it now. Less and less of each new generation discriminates. I probably won't see it in my lifetime (barring some sort of science fiction longevity treatment in the next forty years), but I think it will happen given enough time. The world's moving in the right direction, there are just some stragglers trying to hold it back.

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NB Adult

Like the saying goes, "If you have a misty optic you can't be optimistic!" Which means we have to have a sense of vision like you are expressing here, you are probably right as the generations pass on things are bound to change over time. Meanwhile, we need to develop our senses, be wary of surroundings and dangerous people, places and situations just as genetic women have always had to, because in our lifetime this is our reality.

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