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Covering the female body madness

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TammyAnne
41 minutes ago, OliverPerry said:

 

If only everyone was like you.

The first thing people notice is appearance.

 

Well, actually I have two male friends, who are dating, that have a simple but brilliant (my opinion) story. They both never used "grinder" a very popular app for men to meet other men, mostly just for sex (I have a friend that, like so many blokes, is, sadly addicted to it. You have no idea how many "dick pics" he accidentally made me see while showing me messages). Well, I guess that app is another example of how the outside image ends up commonly being the most important thing. Oh well... back to the two friends

Basically one was supposedly heterosexual and dating a girl, never having experienced any attraction towards men. He did like her though, I remember her being in a relationship with another guy and he still doing whatever it took to make her his, he ended up being successful, the fact that the bloke she was dating cheated on her helping him achieve his goal. Well, they ended up dating for more than two years. During his heterosexual relationship, he already knew my other friend (the bloke he would end up falling in love with). They knew each other but had never really exchanged many words. When they started seeing and talking to each other more often though, due to becoming work colleagues, suddenly my "straight" friend fell in love. It was a bit complicated this, the "straight one" was still with his girlfriend when this happened. I know they didn't perform any romantic act before he broke up with his girlfriend though (at least that's what I've been told I mean), which I find kind of cool because they both already knew the feelings they shared for one another. The "straight relationship" ended but both of my male friends, even though already dating, only admitted their relationship to people many months later. My now "previously heterosexual" mate still loved his ex-girlfriend but not romantically anymore and didn't want to hurt her. Of course, she was hurt in the end but nowadays they're very good friends. 

 

Yes, I wish more people were like you or my friend.

It's true that, in my case, I've never felt attracted to a girl in a romantic way but if it happens, it happens. 

When it comes to appearance, I seem to only be turned off by the incredibly fit (hot in American english) blokes that many seem to fall in love with so easily. But that's because I have this belief that they are all conceited and shallow. The ones I have met prove my theory.  

 

I wanted to share this for some reason.

I have a problem here on TransPulse, I can't seem to stop writing every single thought that comes into my head. 

I never share anything in real life, this is all quite new to me. 

I basically stay quiet until a topic like "the newest ps4 game" or "Harry Potter" suddenly appears in a conversation. My mouth seems to start moving on its own when that happens. And yes, I do like Harry Potter. I don't care if it's childish or even girly, it's my guilty pleasure.  I'm still waiting for my Hogwarts letter to arrive. Haven't lost hope yet! I already know most spells anyway, I bet I would be a great student. 

OliverPerry, you are amusing.

I think many of us are prone to blurting things out. I know I do.

Online, there is a sense of openness that one can share anything, talking to the wall as it were. I would hate for you to dampen your enthusiasm - it's really refreshing.

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TammyAnne
40 minutes ago, OliverPerry said:

 

Then it's settled, witch it is!

But which witch?

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OliverPerry
40 minutes ago, TammyAnne said:

But which witch?

 

Hmm, ok.

There's a problem there, they were all probably burnt to death by now.

Horrible way to die... *shivers* 

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ShawnaLeigh
6 hours ago, TammyAnne said:

Mr. I would kill (not literally) to be a 32B.

I'm more in the neighborhood of 46AA.

I would not care to be larger than a B.

Hey me too.  Lol

well I’m a 40A hoping for a B.  

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ShawnaLeigh
6 hours ago, TammyAnne said:

OliverPerry, you are amusing.

I think many of us are prone to blurting things out. I know I do.

Online, there is a sense of openness that one can share anything, talking to the wall as it were. I would hate for you to dampen your enthusiasm - it's really refreshing.

I agree with this too.  This place is all about asking telling and listening to others.  Blurt whatever you want.  We are here for each other.
❤️👍 

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OliverPerry
1 hour ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

This place is all about asking telling and listening to others.  Blurt whatever you want.  We are here for each other.

 

Glad to hear (read) that :)

 

 

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16 hours ago, OliverPerry said:

 

Then it's settled, witch it is!

 

My spouse comes with English/Irish ethnicity and feels that she has a Druidic background in family history. Judging the way she loves her plants and can bring a sick and dying one home and talk it into full recovery never ceases to amaze me. She may be right!

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