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Today during Anatomy and Physiology I saw that we had a substitute and my anxiety levels spiked because the teachers lists have my deadname on it. He starts announcing names and kids call back announcing their presence, I dreaded the thought of hearing my name but when he got to me he said "Aidan Hoyle" and I actually let out a sigh of relief and appreciation for my teacher, she had edited my name on the roll call sheet and printed out all new ones, just to get my name in as Aidan instead of my legal name.


She knows I am trans and uses male pronouns on me which automatically makes her on of my favorite teachers besides my online course teacher/ 2nd year history teacher, Every morning she would greet me, making sure she used my preferred name and asked me how I was doing. It made me feel so much better about myself. I think these kinds of teachers need more appreciation for what they do, it really does make a difference to me with their presence. 


Some of my peers are still oblivious to the fact that I am trans, and still believe that I am a cis guy and it feels great, but I also feel like I am lying to them.  


My brother still refuses to call me Aidan or AJ or even just A. We used to be so close and I wish he would come around. I did tell him I was Bisexual and he just called me a lesbian. I will just ignore him though. Other than that I had a really great day.

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Carolyn Marie

I can totally understand why you're feeling great about the day.  You have a wonderful teacher, Aidan.  Great to hear.


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Its so nice nice to have an ally in school like this.  Very good @Aidan5!!

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