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Damien Mcknight

I’m not sure if this is the right place to vent, so sorry if it’s not qwq. Basically I feel like crap. Tomorrow is thanksgiving and I’m at a family member’s house. Since it’s my step dad’s family, idk many people. There are a couple of girls here my age but I don’t think they like me. I think I’m too weird. Idk. They don’t talk to me really and it’s worse cuz idk how to start a conversation. So yea, that’s basically it

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53 minutes ago, Ethan Mcknight said:

I’m not sure if this is the right place to vent, so sorry if it’s not qwq. Basically I feel like crap. Tomorrow is thanksgiving and I’m at a family member’s house. Since it’s my step dad’s family, idk many people. There are a couple of girls here my age but I don’t think they like me. I think I’m too weird. Idk. They don’t talk to me really and it’s worse cuz idk how to start a conversation. So yea, that’s basically it

 

Hang in there Ethan and toughen up, it's just a one day holiday and if you can grin and bear it then it will be over in no time and in your rear view mirror. Meanwhile, smile a lot and be responsive and give conversation your best shot, it may be a great learning experience for you because we have to get along as best we can even if some people think we are weird, you know of course that any negative thoughts they may have about you are their problem and not yours.

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Carolyn Marie

I've found that in social situations where I don't know anyone, or just a couple of people, it is hard to break the ice and make small talk.  The best way is to just suck up your fear and discomfort, approach the friendliest-looking person in the room, and say, "hey, whatsup?"  Or talk about some food you all had, or a movie you saw, or just how you feel about anything.  Small talk starts small, but gets bigger the longer the convo lasts.  Pretty soon you'll be sharing laughs.  So stop hugging that wall and get out there among 'em. 

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn

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Damien Mcknight

Pfft, you guesses exactly what I was doing, just sitting in the corner with my ipad. But thanks for the support y’all 

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Charlize

Hiding with a screen may well isolate you more?  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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VickySGV

Show you are listening to people and laugh or sigh in the appropriate places and soon you will fit in "somehow".  If you are off in a corner, you will stay there.  I have bad hearing so sometimes I don't even really hear what is being said, but if I look approachable, someone notices and something nice happens, 

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Juelie_Atlas

I've always had issues with crowds of people and having spent holidays with my wife's family for years, the corner of the room was the place to be for the longest time. But I had to learn then, as a man, that I can't stay in the corner. I am not completely out and cannot show my true self as of yet, but that will come.

 

My wife helped me by being at my side. Find someone you know and like, and just stay with them. They will make introductions or at least have a conversation you may end up knowing something about. At worst, you may learn something new and never have one word to say. At best, you make a connection and a friend

 

Best of luck during these holidays!

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TammyAnne

 Crowds are tough. Holidays are tough.

Put them together and things really get rocky.

You're not alone in feeling the distress. In fact, there's quite a segment of the general population having something between anxiety and a total meltdown over the holidays.

Just muddle through, manage a smile now and again. Spring is just around the corner!

TA

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