we have to walk the line between painting a realistic picture to people who starts transition and also just being optimistic and giving hope to people. I love the model where you need to go see a gender therapist that has the job to be very real with you and tell everything about transition not being a miracle cure or something and helping people clear the confusion and on the other hand me personnaly just telling my story of things going far better then they were and not trying to put false shadows in the picture. We need the stories where things don't go too well to warn people but we also need the stories that are going well and that are giving hope. We need hope.
My wife and I enjoy going out together. No one thinks anything of it, and we don't get stared at. The only time the question of whether or not we are a couple comes up is when we are asked if we want one bill or two.
My wife was a bit weirded out about being a lesbian through no choice of her own. She considers herself a "lesbian by marriage". But she has no reservations about us remaining a couple. As far as she is concerned, my transition is part of the "for better or for worse" that she signed up for. I am not sure I could have done the same had the positions been reversed, so I consider myself very lucky.
My wife likes to be bratty. Sometimes when we are walking down the street and she spots someone looking disapprovingly at us, she will hold my hand, just to give them something to stare at.
Thank you so much i do try my best
Sadly ive lost count on how many TS /TG that have takend this step (ie transiton + also in some cases HRT etc... ) to fast and then crached (incl in here as well as otherwise online ) and its therefore i try to keep this aspect alive as much as i can and this goes for fore all ages young as well as even older then me both MTF as well as FTM . Its VITAL that we that have transitioned (with or without HRT or and SRS ) DONT paint up this glorius life and happiness /princess / Prince life without also mentioning the struggle and price many have to pay. + the medical risks of this as well as of course what we have gained of course.
And i would also like to add reg our situation over here from having to high bounderies (they were WAY to high ) to be alowed to start the journey they have now lowerd to much and therefore we have this problems with more and more TG`s /TS being alowed HRT etc... to YOUNG when they get older they regret there choice .
Also i must also add that of course there are happy cases of (in this case ) FTM that have gone back to female but as i said way more that havent been happy ending
Welcome Lily. I'm glad you decided to come here and that you thought it would help. There are many kind people here to speak with and even vent every now and again, as life presents challenges. I'm happy to hear you've been able to break through and speak to someone. This is good. Understandably your family knows you well and sees the change in you. Talk to your therapist about how to address this subject with them.
All my best.
Doubts are common, but if you're on the right track they subside.
This is the critical point to understand. Transition does not solve all the worlds problems.
While there are some that bemoan "gatekeepers", taking a good long time to grasp all the ups and downs of transition and coming to peace with your inner self can never be overstated. Its always nicer when looking over the fence. But no doubt this is hard work, emotionally and physically.
Actually despite what is said in this otherwise brilliant article over here (and also Finland for what ever reason actually ) FTM are sadly in MANY cases regretful of there transiton (usely done WAY to young and all done with the sergery etc... ) and its a HUGE problem this days that to young (ie under 18 ) TS being given both HRT and all the rest (incl sergery .) and sadly over here theres no way back as far i understand this with FTM.
Its also important to way in that transiton is NOT the magical gift that will magically make youre life a living dream despite how many that claimes this. Its also vital that if you go this route you HAVE to be 101 % clear on EVERY aspect of this desition and the possible price we may have to pay (or not )and of course also what we have to winn as well . + its also WELL known that HRT often mess with youre mental mind (hence im refused to get my HRT and SRS due to my diagnosis i would literly go under without proper support 24 /7 for the first year or so ) i have had friends (TS ) that had to stop HRT on the count they were going cracy ( and i mean banarnas ) not to mention depression is all to common as well . Add to that if youre expectetaions of this are not in line to what actually is duable. other words its VITAL to have youre actuall facts on what this step does mean and how far youre able to get .
All this said let me be clear im NOT against any transiton in any age (although SRS or the other way for FTM ) to young can and have been in many cases gone the wrong way .SO its VITAL to get proper help as young most defenetly BUT sadly im forced to say that its better to hold on sergery until 18 + same with HRT (blockers fine ) its MANY young TS around USA that have to stop HRT as there mind is going (ie depression etc... ) same with others that started HRT + also many medical risk factors that force them to stop of course
Same with de transitioning in general for some the price to pay for this gets to high (incl they feel they cant as it would indeed offend there god & religion ) and so they feel forced to get back to there assigned birth. And sadly they end up in many cases brokend down un happy and in most cases miserable lifes and also some commit suicide. This is the SAD facts of being TS
Welcome to Trans Pulse, Lily! I can appreciate the anxiety you feel even coming here and admitting how you feel. It was a difficult moment for me, as well. You made a good decision. I would urge you to find the confidence to explain to your therapist about your dysphoria. It's the only way he or she can help you deal with it. They are there to help you, not judge you.
Please look around the forums and post questions and comments wherever you wish. We'll be here to help.
Well, here's one...
Dispelling the Myths About Trans People 'Detransitioning.'
We're hard to study, because there aren't a lot of us and, by nature, we do not advertise our trans-ness. The biggest study ever conducted to date was less than 200 individuals. Even so, I'd take a movie penned by a minister with a grain of salt. I've heard way more stories about people who have chosen to live in misery to avoid offending their god in some way.