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So I had asked this a while ago and was awarded with a few books to check out.  Sadly none of them were exactly what I was looking for.  I was in search of answers at the time and maybe a story or two that I could relate to.

My therapist had recommended a book that nails it.  After listening to me and what my issues and fears were he told me to check this one out.

"She's Not There: A life in two genders" by Jennifer Finny Boylan. 

It is the first in what seems like a series of three but I would not call it a trilogy.  I don't know as I have not read the other two yet.  I am just finishing to first book.

It is about her transition from "Jim" to "Jenny" over the course of many years and the struggles and fears you may experience.  I saw many for her that were me and mine.  Amazingly close.

It has so many similarities to how things were for me when I was younger and then into being a young adult.  Married life and coming out during that.  Parenting two small children.  The struggle to "fight it" all her life, to find a "cure", and then the realizations, the acceptance.  The book is written in a weird sense too.  Random thoughts play across the pages in the middle of important scenes.  Like one being reminded of something at the wrong time.  She is funny too with wise crack remarks here and there like a normal "guy persona" would do during very female times.  

I found it to be amazing and very helpful.  Encouraging.


Just my recommendation.

If you have books that you find special to you please share them.


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I have actually met and talked with Jenny Boylan several times IRL.  One of her own children recently came out as Non-binary and that story is in the works.


Our actual What Are You Reading Forum has a good number of books listed in it  An older book that helped me was True Selves by Mildred Brown Phd.

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44 minutes ago, VickySGV said:

I have actually met and talked with Jenny Boylan several times IRL.  One of her own children recently came out as Non-binary and that story is in the works.


Our actual What Are You Reading Forum has a good number of books listed in it  An older book that helped me was True Selves by Mildred Brown Phd.

OMG I so wish I could meet her.  She is amazing.  I look forward to her other books.

I admit I did look for something here that was book related but not very hard.  LOL

Thank you Vicky!

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Just your description of the book sounds like I would relate. I want to read it now. 

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