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Hello everyone, I'm Brandon/Brittany, I'm 33 yrs old, I've known something was up since I was a child, but growing up in a Christian, conservative family in North Carolina, it was not acceptable to be anything but "normal". So I closeted my feelings, and lived life as a boy, as best I could. I got picked on and made fun of all through school. " You walk like a girl", "you act like a girl", dont be such a girl", " only girls do that", "that's for girls", "that's a girls color". That's just some of the many things that were said. I got caught many times wearing my sisters clothes. I continued to dress up on secret on into adulthood. But never allowed myself to access that part of myself enough to ever figure out what was going on.

 

I told my wife about 8 months ago that I liked to dress up, I then started figuring myself out. At first I thought I was bigender. The more I learn I'm now thinking that I'm transgender. I'm here looking for any support, help, information,  friends, locals who can relate, really anything that would be helpful in this journey. I look forward to seeing what this site had to offer and making new friends. Looking forward to meeting all you wonderful people! Have a great day!

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Salutations Brandy!

 

Our stories are pretty similar. I grew up with the same "Only girls..." and "Boys don't..." refrain. I didn't have a sister though. My egg donor kept her spare (read the one full of clothes she didn't wear) dresser in my room though, so there might have been some plundering here and there. I'll never tell... her.

 

I came out to my wife in March of 2018. She's been very supportive and our relationship has never been stronger. I'm lucky, not all women are so understanding. There are more than a few other girls here that are dealing with quite a bit of strife.

I started on HRT in June the same year and I'll be getting my GCS in February. In the meantime, I've been struggling through our legal system to get my name changed (relatively easy) and alter my gender marker (harder). The worst part of the name change was finding a place to park in Detroit. I so hate driving in Detroit.

 

Pleased to meet a fellow Michigander! There are a couple of us on here, including one of the mods. The rest of us are scattered around the state (Grand Rapids, somewhere in the UP, etc...) but there are still a few of us. So yeah, we're here, we're pretty supportive and we're happy to help where we can.

 

Hugs!

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I completely fumbled that. I blame personal bias. I like Brandy better than Brittany.

 

Salutations Brittany!

 

Hugs!

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Welcome Brandon/Brittany.  
You definitely found the right place to find answers and make some friends.  It is wonderful here.  
Your story sounds familiar to a lot of folks here.  
I am one of those girls who have issues in their marriage Jackie had mentioned.  Please feel free to ask whatever you want.  
 

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Hi, and welcome! This site is a great resource. Everyone here is really friendly and supportive too! Feel free to inquire as needed. 

 

I'm 33 too, and realized and accepted my transgenderism back in march. First I identified as transfem-androgynous, but I think I'm a trans woman now. 

 

I like meeting people in this community my age. It's nice to not feel alone in it I guess. 

 

~Toni

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Hi Brittany! Welcome to the community! I'm also one who is having "difficulties" with my marriage over this. These women here have been so supportive. They don't even disappear when I'm being a crybaby!

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Brittany.  As transgender is usually considered an umbrella term to describe the entire gender spectrum, your desire to dress en-femme would place you firmly within the meaning of that term.  But we don't dwell on labels and categories here.  What matters to us is that you want to be here to learn and get support, and that's what we do.  You are among friends, hon.  I was a lifelong cross dresser before figuring myself out at the age of 55.

 

Please do have a look around the forums and ask all the questions you like.  We'll be here for you when you need us.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hi Brittany,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

I was teased in school too, and was also a raider of my sisters wardrobe.

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug, 

Timber Wolf ?

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45 minutes ago, Timber Wolf said:

 

I was teased in school too, and was also a raider of my sisters wardrobe.

 

Same here, also like Carolyn Marie. A long time crossdresser until 2 years ago. And like Shawna my wife is dead against a transition. I go out dressed as myself when I can.

 

As you can see there are a lot of others here just like you. And most of us have gone through the same things. I have learned so much being on here.

Welcome home.

 

Kymmie

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Welcome Brittany.  I didn't have sisters so i improvised or wore my mom's clothing.  I always felt my parents never knew because i was never "caught" but i'm sure they had a clue.  I was sent to all male schools and didn't come out to the world until i was 63.  I'll never see that hot young girl i wanted but this old gal continues to love life as herself!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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48 minutes ago, Charlize said:

Welcome Brittany.  I didn't have sisters so i improvised or wore my mom's clothing.  I always felt my parents never knew because i was never "caught" but i'm sure they had a clue.  I was sent to all male schools and didn't come out to the world until i was 63.  I'll never see that hot young girl i wanted but this old gal continues to love life as herself!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Oh my lord I had no idea you started this late.  You are gorgeous and an inspiration for me!   

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