Hi from Germany!

[Phi]

Hi everyone,

 

I'm from Berlin, Germany. Only recently I found out about me being transgender (MtF). Assigned male at birth I never felt particularly male, more like something in between, a bit more female. As a student, I presented very feminine but starting to work as a physician in a big hospital I went back to a conformal presentation as a male.

 

A few years back I started to wear feminine clothes again, at first only in private but then full time, even at work. Over the next years, I pushed my boundaries further and further. 
My wife asked me now and then, whether I want to change or do more, like hormones or surgery, which she would support. I was quite puzzled and didn't know, what she meant. The last time she asked me in October, I said, I would like to try female pronouns - and this opened my eyes. I could see and accept, that I'm a trans* person. I came out to myself, to my wife and a few days later at work to my boss and my colleagues. Nobody was surprised. It was like they knew already. They all try their best to use my new pronouns and gender marker (German is a very gendered language). 

 

My experience of myself shifted a lot to the female side. Very surprising but exciting to me. I now have a therapist experienced with trans. And I made appointments with endocrinologists and an institute for laser epilation.

 

My mother told me my name in case I would have been a girl right away. I like that name so much it will be my new one.

 

I hope this is readable and not harsh in any way - English is not my first language, apologies!

 

Best regards
Phi

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Phi!  Your English is just fine, as is your post.  It sounds like you are on a great path towards womanhood, so congratulations are in order.  I'm really glad to hear of all the support you're getting from family and co-workers, especially your wife.  That kind of support is not as common as we'd all like.

 

Please have a look around and post in whatever thread interests you.  I look forward to reading your comments and questions.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

[Charlize]

Welcome Phi.  Your english is great as you describe a path i know quite well.  In my case no-one had expected me to transition.  I think was perhaps a better liar and hid my issues very deeply.  Being open and accepted here has helped me love myself as i am.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Jackie C.]

Salutations Phi!

 

No worries, your English is much, much better than my German (I had a year and a half in high school. I remember almost none of it).

 

It sounds like you've got a plan plus a supportive spouse, family and place of work! Congratulations and glad to have you with us.

 

Hugs!

[Susan R]

6 hours ago, Phi said:

My wife asked me now and then, whether I want to change or do more, like hormones or surgery, which she would support.

Welcome Phi, it’s a pleasure to meet you.  You are a one of those lucky souls who found someone who loves you for you...the core person.  That had to be one of the best feelings to find out about your relationship.  I would love to hear more about this...especially what her reaction was initially when she found out or was informed of your crossdressing.  Was it instant empathy and compassion or did the idea take some time to settle in a bit?  Was it early in your relationship or after many years of being together.  I’ve often wondered why some marriages succeed after this revelation but others don’t.  It’s sad that so many relationships do not have the unconditional love that your spouse obviously has with you.  The bond between you both must be very strong.

 

Thank you for sharing and I do hope to hear more about your journey as it unfolds.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

[Jani]

Welcome Phi!  You are a fortunate person to have such loving support.  Please join in! 

Jani 

[Phi]

Thank you all for your replies and lovely welcomes! You all are so supportive, and I hope I can give something back.

 

My wife is the most important person in my life. Not only is she my partner, but she is my very best friend. We met 15 years ago when we both were students. From the start, she knew my feminine side. I wore skirts and used make-up. She liked it then and still does today.

 

We love each other not because of something - it feels like unconditional, but of course it's not. It's the two of us. I think we make each other complete. We grow on each other and try to become better as human beings. We want each other to be happy. 

 

Best Regards

Phi

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Phi,

Welcome to Transpulse.  I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug, 

Timber Wolf ?