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3 hours ago, DonnaBall said:

I think pepper spray is a good idea Adriana.  I have carried it when I was out as Donna.  Can you elaborate on the incident when you used it? 



Made a sexual advance towards me twice,two different times.got it good

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Mercifully not a situation I have dealt with as Dee,  but the advice my dad gave my sisters growing up was scream, stamp, kick and run. 

My sisters could lift a guy off the ground with the force of their kicks - think kicking a field goal... I witnessed it multiple times growing up, but was always nervous when I would be expected to intervene on their behalf because I am just not that fierce. I did a lot of running and a lot of making friends in different places instead. 

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When I was an unhappy female, I realized how vulnerable I was so I've studied Martial Arts for the last 16 years, some brutal styles and some very passive ones. My go-to is still the brutal styles, but I'm glad I have more gentle tools in my toolbox so I can defend myself without going too far. I used to have my CHL, but I let it lapse when my suicidality was super-active. Now, I'm concerned that my MH diagnoses could result in unfavorable litigation should I ever have to pull my weapon, so I haven't pursued renewing my permit. I do, however, ALWAYS have a large knife in my pocket specifically for defense situations. Now that I'm physically turning into the guy I always felt I was, I'm finding that the NEED to be so on edge about my safety is diminishing, although security concerns will always be a way of life for me.


In addition to being able to handle myself physically, I'm also trained in confrontation psychology and Verbal Judo. Its always best to be able to talk your way out of sketchy situations than to let things escalate to the physical. As stated above, the BEST strategy is to STAY OUT of the situation in the first place!!

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On 1/3/2020 at 9:03 PM, Carolyn Marie said:

This topic has come up many times over the years, and is always timely.  As a former law enforcement officer, I'd say that situational awareness is key to personal safety.


Yes. For the situation where I can't avoid and can't run away from I have my handy collection of scars.

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On 1/4/2020 at 10:29 AM, KymmieL said:

Use of Force was a daily briefing during our Guardmount Assembly prior to going on shift when I was a Law Enforcement Specialist in the Air Force back in the 70's.  I however do not, and chose not to have a fire arm, though I have plenty of training, later in the Air National Guard I was retrained to be a small arms instructor, but that was over 20 years ago.


This has been the way I have been trained to do.

Yes, young padawan  I keep my pink light sabre ready.


The arming/ use of force was a briefing given every four days when we went to the missile field. Any Air Force Security police gets this briefing.




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