Stealth?

[Hellothere]

So im not sure if this is the right place to put this- my apologies if so.

I will be attending a art camp every Thursday for the next long while. I have gotten a haircut and I believe i may be able to pass as a male. I am not out at school yet but chances are no one from school will be there. Im sure my mother put my birthname on the signup but i wish to go by cody for the camp.  I know that i could probably just do it without permission but i wish to ask my parents. I dont think they will say no. I have some ideas on how to avoid the name in roll call. So basically- im trying to psych myself up to asking/letting them know. Anyone got any tips or think this is a bad idea? 

[Jackie C.]

Well, it's every Thursday so obviously not sleep away which would be my only concern. I'd talk to the counselors about it beforehand and explain the situation. You might be surprised, especially at Art Camp, how accommodating the instructors could be.

 

From your message, I'm assuming you're out at home? If that's the case, I can't imagine your parents wouldn't be OK with it (assuming they're OK with your... trans-ness? ... in general).

 

Educators (at least at the college level, my in-laws are both educators at community college) are trained to deal with the situation in a manner that brings the least amount of stress on you. However, they need to know about it if they're going to accommodate you.

 

Also practice signing your name Cody. You'd be surprised how often that trips me up. Muscle memory and all that.

 

Hugs!

[TommieAnne]

I'm with Jackie on the "tell them" ahead of time approach. As long as you're just being you, there should be no problem. Things I saw in art school make someone in transition seem very mild in comparison, trust me.

Art camp should be fun. Let your real self out to play. You'll have a great time and everyone will love you.

TA

[ToniTone]

5 hours ago, TammyAnne said:

Things I saw in art school make someone in transition seem very mild in comparison, trust me.

Art camp should be fun. 

Same, lol! Ah, art school was a trip. I have some stories. I loved it... 

 

Yeah, art camps are fun. Assuming it's not ran by Adolf Hitler types, it should be very fun, and most contemporary artists are progressive, I'm willing to bet they'd accommodate and respect your name and pronouns if you tell them in advance... 

 

~Toni

[Hellothere]

Thanks guys! Im planning on letting parents know so maybe i can get the persons info to let them know when i get home!

[Hellothere]

So I finnaly did it and yall... SHE SOGNED ME UP AS CODY ANYWAY. Bro im gonna cryyyyyyy .i was worried for nothing.

[ToniTone]

Nice! ☺

[TommieAnne]

Art camp will be a ton of fun for you! Have a great time!

You get to experiment in lots of things.

TA

[Jackie C.]

Awesome! Have a great time as yourself. Mmm, that's what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you for that. You just made my whole day.

 

Hugs!

[MetaLicious]

On 1/7/2020 at 6:15 PM, Hellothere said:

So I finnaly did it and yall... SHE SOGNED ME UP AS CODY ANYWAY. Bro im gonna cryyyyyyy .i was worried for nothing.

Okay, now I'm tearing up... I'm so happy this went so well for you!  I know it's scary, but trust me, being yourself it totally worth it!  In the long run, it's actually less scary than hiding yourself.