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Kyler R.

I wanted to know if it is possible to change my username on this site.

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Carolyn Marie

Yes it is.  I can help you with that.  You can PM me your choice and I'll see if its available.


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    • Carolyn Marie
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      Jackie is so right about communication being a key in this. We all communicate on many levels, verbal and nonverbal. Cis people find trans people (my opinion) confusing because of the complex messaging we send: looking one way, acting another, saying/feeling different than we appear, etc. I probably just restated the obvious. TA
    • TammyAnne
      That should have said "Reuben" but my autocorrect already is thinking "famous artists" so what the heck! TA
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