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Still not sure but I think I might finally know my gender

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Markjvp

So recently i tried to search for signs of being genderfluid I found this https://www.moms.com/20-signs-moms-kid-might-be-gender-fluid/ and well to most of those I could relate to plus it felt more right but here’s a question can genderfluid people still transition? I pretty recently looked in the mirror at my self at my whole body and well i didn’t feel like it’s me but I don’t know if it’s connected to this or if it’s something else. Also another question I have is there a way to find out which one I am as in if I’m trans or gernderfluid? And is there a way to find out if it’s a phase?

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Jackie C.

I'd talk to a gender therapist. If you are experiencing body dysphoria in regards to your primary or secondary sexual characteristics, that can lead to depression. I've been to Depression Land. You don't want to go there. It's full of spiders.

 

Your best bet is to seek out a professional and have a nice long chat, or chats until you feel more comfortable with finding a solution. You don't want to rush into anything you can't take back.

 

Hugs!

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Markjvp

Ok thank you and I think it’s not body dysphoria I’ve searched it up and depersonalization is more close to what I’m feeling but and body dysphoria is when I don’t like my body but still fine with gender but I’m actually pretty Ok with my body so once I can I’ll talk to a gender therapist and I’ll experiment which i think I’ll be able to maybe in about 5 years and I know I can wait that long 

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Jackie C.

Just be careful sweetie. Don't take chances with your health. Mental or physical.

 

Hugs!

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Markjvp

I will 🙂

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Markjvp

Ok searched up if genderfluid people can transition (medically) the answer I got was yes they can but someone please confirm this for me

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Jani

There are no rules about this.  What do you want to do?  

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Markjvp

Well I haven’t really been thinking about transitioning that much I’m not even sure if I want to do it. but I know I don’t necessarily like how my voice sound when I hear it from a recording of it so if there’s something for that probably that first other wise I don’t know yet

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ToniTone

Gender fluid is on the transgender spectrum. And being transgender is an exercise in gender fluidity. These two things are not definitively the same. But they can be conceptually the same in context. You can define yourself as both, one in the same if you fancy! I think it's important to include gender fluidity and non binary in the transgender umbrella.

 

I've heard of non-binary spectrum people transitioning, "partially" transitioning even. Low dose hrt, a minor cosmetic surgery or another, top surgery and such... It's completely acceptable, so long as the patient and the doctors feel it's vital to the patient's well being. 

 

I highly suggest seeking out a gender therapists. You can pick our brains for opinions and conjecture, but a professional in this field would be more suited to helping you sort this stuff out, and referring you to whatever services you may need. 

 

I'm not the authority on these issues. Trans elders, please correct me if I'm mistaken on anything ☺

 

~Toni

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Jynestia

Hello OP! I am not sure if it is much help, but I have a trans friend who also identifies as genderfluid. It does exist, and as previously stated there are no rules to who you can be.

 

I sense that you are resistant to reaching out to a therapist, but if nothing else that person can connect you with the right people to make the changes you desire if not also help you decide what those are.

 

From what I understand from my trans friends, changing your voice requires therapy as well depending on your kind of transition.

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Jackie C.
17 hours ago, Jynestia said:

From what I understand from my trans friends, changing your voice requires therapy as well depending on your kind of transition.

 

Very much so. Though going F to M is easier (because expanding voice box), you still need to learn to project your voice from the right part of your throat and you need to master vocal presentation for the gender you are presenting as. It's a very rewarding experience, but it requires a lot of practice.

 

Hugs!

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Markjvp

Thank you and the feeling of being genderfluid or transgender is still conflicting with each other I think I feel more right being genderfluid but for now I might just say I’m both genderfluid and transgender, also I’m not resisting to reaching out to a therapist my options are just pretty limited since my parents don’t think im transgender/genderfluid And I think I partially know why

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Jynestia
On 1/15/2020 at 4:32 PM, Markjvp said:

I’m not resisting to reaching out to a therapist my options are just pretty limited since my parents don’t think im transgender/genderfluid

 

My apologies, I did not know. That's gotta be hard. *hugs* It's hard enough as an adult, I can't imagine trying to go through this as a minor. I hope you are able to find the resources you need soon. I'm sorry I'm not much more help.

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Markjvp

It's ok and I accept the apology ☺

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