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For those in transition: Could you stop and/or go back?


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36 minutes ago, Jani said:

Doubts are common, but if you're on the right track they subside.

 

This is the critical point to understand.  Transition does not solve all the worlds problems.  

 

While there are some that bemoan "gatekeepers", taking a good long time to grasp all the ups and downs of transition and coming to peace with your inner self can never be overstated.  Its always nicer when looking over the fence.  But no doubt this is hard work, emotionally and physically. 

 

Jani

 

I couldent agree more  nor been able to express it  better  even as i tried  WELL spoken indeed   

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37 minutes ago, Jani said:

@Sarahnr1 You wrote it clearly dear!   

 

Thank you so much i do try my best

 

Sadly ive lost count on how many TS /TG  that have takend this step  (ie transiton + also in some cases HRT etc...  ) to fast and then crached (incl in here as well as otherwise online ) and its therefore i try to keep this aspect alive as much as i can  and this goes  for  fore all ages  young as well as even older then me  both MTF as well as  FTM  . Its VITAL that we that have transitioned   (with or without HRT or  and  SRS )  DONT  paint up this glorius life  and  happiness  /princess  / Prince life  without also mentioning the struggle and price many have to pay. + the medical risks of this as well as of course what we have gained  of course.

 

And i would also like to add  reg  our situation over here from  having to high  bounderies (they were  WAY to high )  to be alowed to  start the journey they have now lowerd  to much  and  therefore  we have this  problems  with   more and more  TG`s  /TS   being alowed HRT etc... to YOUNG when they get older  they regret  there  choice .

 

Also i must also add that of course  there are happy cases   of  (in this case  )  FTM  that have  gone back to female  but as i said  way more that havent been happy ending                   

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Well, I suffered for years not knowing or understanding how I felt or why.  Depression, anger and periodic “needs” involving being feminine.  
 

When things got too bad to deal with I finally sought help.  It didn’t take long for my therapist to figure me out.  I am on hrt but no plans for gcs.  
 

like others here, could I forget who I am?  No way.  Could I stop everything that I’ve done since ?  Not likely.  But, I am not full time.  That’s because my wife of 48 years is not happy about this but I don’t desire to let things go.  Lastly, I’m not ready to come out completely.

 

Could I go back to being cis, not likely.  At least not without bringing back extreme depression.

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11 hours ago, MaryMary said:

we have to walk the line between painting a realistic picture to people who starts transition and also just being optimistic and giving hope to people. I love the model where you need to go see a gender therapist that has the job to be very real with you and tell everything about transition not being a miracle cure or something and helping people clear the confusion and on the other hand me personnaly just telling my story of things going far better then they were and not trying to put false shadows in the picture. We need the stories where things don't go too well to warn people but we also need the stories that are going well and that are giving hope. We need hope.

 

I agree 101 % with that exelent and wise statement . This is how i was mentored  as well  by my TS mentor (older then me  fully transioned  years ago we met when i was entering  a  support  org  here in Sweden  & we found  eatchoder  emiditely during my entry call (we talked  for HOURS  ) & without her back then i would probaly had  gone under from my dysforia  )  If i got to cocky she emiditly took me down (with facts no BS  )  if i was  sad or lost hope she helped  me  fel better  or gave me hope   back to me.       

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I've just started my journey, and I don't think I could go back.  I never was cis, nor will I ever be.  Even if I stopped transistioning, I would still be trans, and identify as such. Just being out of the closet has made it easier to breathe...

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