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Hi everyone.

I created this account two years ago but this is the first time I have posted something on this forum.

My name is My Lung (眉胧) and I'm from Vietnam. I am a timid person. I Like listening to English songs and studying languages. Currently I'm studying English and Chinese. I joined our forum with a view to seeking guidance and reading others' journey. 

 

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SaraAW

Welcome!  I can tell you I lurked for awhile until I built up enough courage to post for the first time. It was another step in admitting to myself who I really am. 
 

Please join in the dialogue as you feel comfortable. 

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ShawnaLeigh
1 hour ago, SaraAW said:

Welcome!  I can tell you I lurked for awhile until I built up enough courage to post for the first time. It was another step in admitting to myself who I really am. 
 

Please join in the dialogue as you feel comfortable. 

Me too.  My original plan was to just gain knowledge behind the scenes and self diagnose myself as I had done my whole life.  I shortly discovered I was not alone, not weird or definitely not broken.

I joined and its been the best thing I have ever done with concerns to being trans.

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Jani

Welcome My Lung!  I'm happy you have joined us and have made your first post.  Exciting!  Please join in the conversation and add whatever advice and support you can.  

 

Hugs, Jani 

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Jackie C.
4 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

I shortly discovered I was not alone, not weird or definitely not broken.

 

Nah, I'm still weird.

 

Welcome My Lung! I look forward to getting to know you better! Feel free to poke around and ask questions. We're a pretty supportive bunch!

 

Hugs!

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TrIIIy

Hi, My Lung. Welcome to the group. I’m new here, but I have found so

much support already!

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Susan R

It’s a pleasure to meet you My Lung.  It’s hard taking that first step. Reaching out can be so difficult but know you are completely safe here so feel free to share...if you feel the desire. It would be nice to learn a bit more about you and your journey thus far.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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Belle

Welcome My Lung! This forum has been a lifesaver for me. I would have had nobody to talk to if it weren't for the people here.

 

Belle ❤

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Robin68

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My Lung I was very timid here also and did not speak up for a time. I was like Shawnaleigh. I have learned this is a very safe place and you are very welcome here! Your English is excellent! I live in an area where many Vietnamese have settled in the United States. I look forward to reading more of your comments!

 

Hugs! ❤️

 

Robin

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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Trans Pulse, My Lung.  I think you may well be our first member from Vietnam, so that makes you extra special.  Please ask any questions you wish, and join in any of the conversations.  We will help as much as we can.  BTW, your English is excellent!

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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FrozenWinter

Thank you very much for your warm welcomes and the compliment.

I still have a lot to learn and am trying to be more open, so I will appreciate your advices and guidance and share my stories when I can. 

By the way, we are preparing for Lunar New Year holiday (we call it Tet holiday) here in Vietnam as well as some other asian countries and I am so excited. 

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Robin68
22 hours ago, FrozenWinter said:

By the way, we are preparing for Lunar New Year holiday (we call it Tet holiday) here in Vietnam as well as some other asian countries and I am so excited. 

The Vietnamese in my area celebrate Tet. Have a wonderful holiday!

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FrozenWinter
1 hour ago, Robin68 said:

The Vietnamese in my area celebrate Tet. Have a wonderful holiday!

Thank you for your wish! *Gives "lì xì" (lucky money)*

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Robin68
5 hours ago, FrozenWinter said:

Thank you for your wish! *Gives "lì xì" (lucky money)*

Thank you very much! I wish you good luck! 🍎🍎

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