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Greetings and salutations to everyone!  I am Michaela, and you can call me Mickey, if you want. i was born Michael, but it's time to retire that moniker.  My pronouns are varied, but I prefer she/her and will accept they/them.  He/him isn't outright rejected, but most days it just doesn't fit.  Avoid masculine pronouns, if you please...

 

That's it for names, but who am I?  Good question!  Who I am is fluid, subject to change on a whim, and I'm only just realizing how empowering it can be to embrace that fluidity.  Since I was seven or eight, I knew that I was a girl on the inside, even if my outside didn't reflect that.  My boyhood was one of resignation, where I rejected even being human, because being human meant being stuck with being a man.  My childhood idols were logical beings, like Spock and Data.  It wasn't until my early twenties that the word transgender entered my vocabulary, but the moment it did, I knew it fit.  Alas, despite my intention to transition then, health insurance wouldn't cover it, and neither could my spotty employment.

 

Now I'm an older gal, and I've woken up to the fact that my time in this world is limited.  I didn't plant my tree yesterday, but I wanna see it grow, so I said, "Screw it. I'm planting this tree now!"  I told my wife, and she told me that my happiness is more important than gender norms. The only thing that can hold me back is myself, and I'm so done with being my own gatekeeper...  No, that's not entirely true - I'm still gonna do some gatekeeping, it's just that I'm going to open gates instead of keeping them shut.

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Jackie C.

Salutations Michaela! Welcome to TransPulse! It's good to meet you. We're glad you're here.

 

Please have a look around. Feel free to ask questions (within forum guidelines, I have to smite you if you misbehave) and poke around. Lovely to have you with us!

 

Hugs!

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MetaLicious

Thanks for the warm weIcome! While it's true that I aim to misbehave, I've read the rules and promise to keep my misbehaving elsewhere!

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Jani

Greetings Mickey and welcome. That's nice that your wife understands happiness is most important.  Please join in.

 

Cheers, Jani

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Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Michaela.  I love your spirit, and being mischievous is something I'm into, too.  I wish that all spouses were as supportive as yours, so give her a hug for us.  Please look around and have something to say, because we'll be here to read and listen.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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ShawnaLeigh

Welcome Micheals it’s a pleasure to meet you.  Your intro post was quite pleasant to read and I am so glad your wife is being so d sad supportive and accepting.   There are some here not so lucky.  This is a great place to learn more about yourself and make some friends that are in the same boat. 
I look forward to reading more! 

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SaraAW

Welcome Michaela, glad you found this place. Happy to hear the support of your wife is with you. 

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Timber Wolf

Hi Mickey,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug, 

Timber Wolf 🐾

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Susan R
On 1/22/2020 at 11:59 AM, MetaLicious said:

I told my wife, and she told me that my happiness is more important than gender norms. The only thing that can hold me back is myself, and I'm so done with being my own gatekeeper... 

Hello Mickey,  it’s a pleasure to meet you and I have to say I love the way you express yourself in your writing here.  It was an excellent read.  I also want to point out that your wife is way ahead of the curve.  It looks as though she will be a great support and ally through whatever journey you take with her.  It doesn’t mean there won’t be some rough patches but she is obviously a very empathetic individual.  I wish more spouses had that quality.  Thank God mine does or who knows where I’d be living right now.  It’s difficult to read a story where the spouse just refused to listen, attempt to understand, and put themselves in their spouses shoes for even a few minutes.  I congratulate you on your new journey and wish you and your wife all the best.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

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TammyAnne

Hi Michaela! Welcome.

Lots of good people, solid information and level headed advice here.

Glad you joined!

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MetaLicious

Thank you all for your welcoming words!  This place has good vibes, and I think it's going to easy to feel at home here.

 

I truly am lucky (and grateful!) to have the support of my wife.  I was terrified to tell her, but I was also terrified of spending the rest of my life regretting not having chosen the road less traveled. After a couple of months, she asked me point-blank what was going on, so I told her.  As it turned out, she wasn't surprised, and was more concerned about my feelings for her changing!  Interestingly, when my father-in-law learned what was happening, that was his greatest concern.  Sheesh, I really am lucky - I may end up wth my family being completely supportive...

 

Note to self: Never forget how easy it is for cisgendered people to conflate gender and sexuality!

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Aidan5

Welcome to the forum Michaela! 

 

We welcome you with opens arms and open minds, I hope you can find the same comfort I did here :)

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Charlize

It's great that you have found acceptance from your family.  

You are certainly accepted and welcome here.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Miseria

Salutations and welcome to quote a song I like

"It's not too late
It's never too late"

Enjoy your stay🎵

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