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AdriannaB

Came out today,going to be Adrianna in March.At 15 years old,I questioned myself if I was really female from the inside and knew the answer was yes.On my list of things to do was go further into my journey of being Adrianna more.So far came out at work,to my wife,mom and my 3 sisters.So far so good and I started seeing a therapist last month.Transitioning,decided not to go on the HRT and doing it surgically on March 6th.Having the body contouring surgery,ffs and breast augmentation done.My wife Nikki even came out too,said she has always liked me as Adrianna more and going to be there for support.So far I am excited about it and going to love the results.Next are my friends and other family members including my twin son and daughter tommorrow

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Susan R
3 hours ago, AdriannaB said:

Transitioning,decided not to go on the HRT and doing it surgically on March 6th.Having the body contouring surgery,ffs and breast augmentation done.

Hi Adrianna, This is wonderful news about your coming out to family and work.  as you are finding out, it gets easier as time goes on.  You start to care even less what others think of it, so much so, that you end up telling people you hadn’t even planned on coming out to in the course of your journey. 
I had a question about your upcoming Breast Augmentation surgery.  I’m not sure how far along you are regarding the BA but is your surgeon concerned about you not having been on HRT prior to the surgery?  Once you've had the BA surgery and then down the road decide to start on HRT, your breasts can get so much larger than you had planned or possibly wanted (depending on your genetic disposition).

My internal medicine doctor said that she wanted me on HRT at least a year if I wanted BA surgery.  I realize that other IM docs or endocrinologists may not be that conservative in their approach.   I am just curious if you’ve had this discussion yet.  In my case as it turns out, I’m not going to have any BA because I am almost where I want to be at 16 months HRT.

 

Congratulations on your coming out,

Susan R🌷

 

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46 minutes ago, Susan R said:

Hi Adrianna, This is wonderful news about your coming out to family and work.  as you are finding out, it gets easier as time goes on.  You start to care even less what others think of it, so much so, that you end up telling people you hadn’t even planned on coming out to in the course of your journey. 
I had a question about your upcoming Breast Augmentation surgery.  I’m not sure how far along you are regarding the BA but is your surgeon concerned about you not having been on HRT prior to the surgery?  Once you've had the BA surgery and then down the road decide to start on HRT, your breasts can get so much larger than you had planned or possibly wanted (depending on your genetic disposition).

My internal medicine doctor said that she wanted me on HRT at least a year if I wanted BA surgery.  I realize that other IM docs or endocrinologists may not be that conservative in their approach.   I am just curious if you’ve had this discussion yet.  In my case as it turns out, I’m not going to have any BA because I am almost where I want to be at 16 months HRT.

 

Congratulations on your coming out,

Susan R🌷

 

HRT,I have a family history of blood clots and this was discussed with my therapist with the pill form.I had one 2 years ago and was lucky to survive it.Surgeon was good to me about the BA,he has done them with the patients not on HRT.One was my good friend Meghan done two years ago

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