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New Kid Pt.3

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Aidan5

Some one hit me with the skills on how to flirt because I am terrible and I know, the new kid just laughs at my miserable attempts, I think he finds it cute that I try. Sadly I am about as smooth as sandpaper. So I tried to get revenge for him dropping his phone on me when it said "Hints" So he was dropping hints on me. So I wrote "Hints on a piece of paper and dropped it on him, for revenge. He was like "Ah, I see your true feelings." And I panicked and said "Ha, no it's just revenge from earlier." He obviously didn't believe me and just laughed. Someone please teach me how to flirt so I can compete, he is a smooth as butter! He is always trying to hold hands so I do it back, He told me to move to the back of the bus with him and I said no playfully and he said "I will kiss you right now if you don't" (Also playing) I froze up ack. I need halp haha

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BEAN_CHILD

idk

whenever im flirting with me boyfriend what i usually do is make a play on words with whatever he said to me

example

him:the sky is so blue

me:as deep a blue as your eyes

him:but my eyes are brown...

me:i thought they were blue from how much theyre shining

flirting 101 with max lol

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ShawnaLeigh

Flirting isn’t a skill. It’s a comfort level.  You have to have a few things to make it work.  You have you really be interested in the person. Not just smitten.  You have to be confident in yourself as a lovable person and someone who is also desirable.  You have to relax and let things flow.  You can not plan or act out anything anyone else has said.  It can not be forced.  It comes from inside you as a confident playfulness.  Being clever and humorous is only a small part of it. But it helps a lot.  
The biggest thing is to believe in yourself and be brave.  Eventually you see it’s not hard or scary.  
just be you.  

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Aidan5

Ah, confidence will help a ton. Which, recently I find myself having more confidence when he is around. I also have really bad trust and abandonment issues, which he is helping me with. I am very cautious when I like someone. It blows my mind when someone tells me that they like me. I will work on my confidence and self respect. :D 

 

thank you guys a ton

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TammyAnne
14 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

Flirting isn’t a skill. It’s a comfort level.  You have to have a few things to make it work.  You have you really be interested in the person. Not just smitten.  You have to be confident in yourself as a lovable person and someone who is also desirable.  You have to relax and let things flow.  You can not plan or act out anything anyone else has said.  It can not be forced.  It comes from inside you as a confident playfulness.  Being clever and humorous is only a small part of it. But it helps a lot.  
The biggest thing is to believe in yourself and be brave.  Eventually you see it’s not hard or scary.  
just be you.  

Very well put.

It's sometimes described as "being comfortable in your own skin".

Just be relaxed and interested.

TA

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Jackie C.

Yeah, you don't really want a "smooth operator" vibe anyway. Those guys tend to be walking garbage fires. Most guys, especially when they're young, are pretty clueless about flirting. Honestly, it's cute.

 

Comfort levels with people have a lot to do with it too. Different members of the couple are allowed to have different levels of flirting. For example, I will say things to Susan that make her give me a look that says, "Is there even a word for what's wrong with you?" As another example, I was at the chiropractor. I'd been seeing them for a few months at that point and felt comfortable joking around with the doctor and the technician. The tech had me in a spine extender. Basically a tight jacket around your ribs and another around your pelvis. So he puts on the one for my ribs and asks, "Is that too much?" I raised my voice an octave, got all breathy and answered, "Harder daddy!" He couldn't look at me for the rest of the visit.

There's probably something wrong with me.

 

The point being that your new friend sounds more comfortable around you than you are around him. Maybe a little more extroverted too. That's not a criticism, some of my best friends are like that. They have a minimal filter and they're comfortable around me. Enjoy it! You'll loosen up as your relationship deepens and you get to know each other better. A good partnership covers for each other's weak spots and builds on each other's strengths.

 

Seriously, I am positively giddy for you.

 

Hugs!

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Aidan5

Thanks for your advice :) I love the story and I am really good around with strangers because I am extroverted too, just when I like someone my brain doesn't want me to mess up and look like a complete idiot, but he finds it cute. This morning he sat in the back of the bus and he told me to sit next to him, I abided. 

 

There was one time I was in the bathroom and washing my hands and looked to the person next to me and let the water overflow and I said "Wow, this water is really getting out of hand." They laughed at me and smiled, I like making people's day better :D

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