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I have been wondering this ever since I realized that I am a girl.  Before the realization I had dreams were I could barely walk, to get moving I would have to push off something to start. This was a common theme in my dreams. No matter what type of dream the common thing was barely walking.


However ever since my revelation that I am really a girl. I have not had any of these types of dreams. It is almost like my being barely able to walk was a sign that my mind was finally healed by my revelation?



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Dana Michelle

I've had quite a bit of dreams where I either cannot walk or can only walk very slowly. Usually this is when I am dreaming about crossing the street or someone chasing me. I don't remember the last time I had a dream like this. It might have been a few years ago or a few months ago. I've been on hormones for 2 years and wanted to transition for at least a decade before I finally did. I have no idea if my dreams of being unable to walk have anything to do with my gender dysphoria and have never thought about it.

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Sounds to me like subconsciously healing is taking place.  Internal acceptance if you will.  

JMO but I see that as a good thing.

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I understand this completely. I used to always refer myself as “we” like I would say in my mind “we are going to the store”. But like talking to myself. Every since I transitioned and truly discovered that I’m Non-binary and changed my name to Mason. That’s saying “we” has stopped in my head. 

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Dana Michelle

I just woke up from a dream where I could only walk slowly so these dreams have not ended for me. I'm still presenting as male and have other issues that are not resolved yet.

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There could be a connection.  Dreams where you can't move (or can move only slowly) are fairly common. One possible explanation is that the body is more or less "turned off" during sleep, and in some dreams, you become aware that your body isn't responding to your brain's signals.


Most people don't have such dreams consistently, as far as I know.  I think in your case, there just might be a connection. Only time can tell!


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