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My name is Bethany, I'm a closeted bigender F/NB. It took me a while to figure it out. I haven't really talked to anyone about it and, honestly although I am happy to have some idea of what I am, I'm also scared for what it could mean for my ties to family and friends. Also, society hasn't been the kindest to people of differing gender and sexuality.

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Welcome Bethany.  Glad you have joined us.  You are not alone and this forum is definitely kind to people of different gender and sexuality.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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It’s a pleasure to meet you Bethany. Welcome!

1 hour ago, LacrimalDuality said:

I'm also scared for what it could mean for my ties to family and friends. Also, society hasn't been the kindest to people of differing gender and sexuality.

What that means for you is likely change.  I mean that in an overall positive sense.  It’s good to reach out and find others going through similar experiences.  You’ll know what to expect and gain some good insight from others here.  It is true that society hasn’t been kind to us but it is changing slowly.  I know I’d be in a world or hurt right now if society in general was still as merciless as it was 30 years ago.  There are always a few bad apples out there.  You can’t let that hold you back from your search and discovery.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Thanks, Susan. I've been feeling a little overwhelmed lately with this discovery of mine. It took me a while to get here but, I want to learn about myself so I can feel more comfortable with myself being trans.

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Hi Bethany,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

It is scary when we accept it. But you're not alone. These forums have given me courage I never dreamed I could find. I hope you will be a part of the conversation here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug, 

Timber Wolf ?

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Thank you. I can't believe how awesome everyone has been so far. It's pretty wild being called by my name by so many. It's just been me in reference to myself until now. ^ ^

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Hello Bethany,

 

I hope you will feel welcome here. Feeling scary is understandable, I hope we can all help as best as we can.

 

Love and hugs,

 

Kris

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Hey Bethany! One of my oldest friends identifies as bigender, so that's cool! I hope you enjoy your stay with us! We're a safe space to talk, share experiences, and generally bond with people who know what you're going through. Feel free to poke around and join the discussion when you think you're ready. Welcome to TransPulse!

 

Hugs!

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Thanks, Kris and Jackie. Your messages help me feel a little better. I'm really happy I decided to come here. I have alot to learn now that I'm not trying to shoulder all of it on my own. Coming here was an important step to helping me come to terms with my truth. 

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Hi Bethany and welcome! This forum is a great resource full of friendly, supportive people, glad you can join us ?

 

~Toni

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12 hours ago, LacrimalDuality said:

I want to learn about myself so I can feel more comfortable with myself being trans

 

Hi, Bethany!  It's a journey for us all, and we can travel at whatever pace works for each of us.  Regarding learning about yourself, have you explored any resources such as books on gender topics of interest, or finding an experienced gender therapist?

 

Hugs,

 

Astrid

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Let me recommend a book that just might help you.  The author is Jeffrey Marsh who is a producer of many Trans / Enby short films and music productions.  The book is How To Be You! which is a combination workbook and personal journal for you that I personally have gotten some help from.  Jeffrey is just about non-anything, although Jeffrey does have a male partner who is also a wonderful person as well.  I have met both of them IRL.

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Thanks Toni, Astrid, and Vicky. I have looked around for local gender therapists and, I'm lucky to live near a few. I'll have to check it out in greater detail soon.

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Hi Bethany and welcome!  This place is full of wonderful and supportive folks, hopefully we can help you along your self discovery. Hugs!

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Thanks, Sara. I'm already much better off now with everyone's warm greetings and words of support. Until yesterday, I was kind of freaking out about even talking to anyone about it but, I'm happy I did.

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Welcome Bethany!  This is a great place to explore who you really are, and there are lots of friends here to help you discover yourself.

 

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Sally

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Welcome. Bethany!  What a beautiful name too.  I’m a glad you found us.  This place is exactly what you are looking for if you want to learn more about yourself and discover you are not alone!  
I hope to hear more from you.  

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Hello and welcome Bethany.

I think you'll feel comfortable and accepted here. Lots of nice people, good reading, things to think about, answers to questions and so on. A good place to just be yourself.

TA

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I've spent a little bit of time looking through familiar posts, it's kinda wild I didn't realize I was on a different part of the gender spectrum sooner. I'm not sure how long it'll take me to come to terms with it but it's a lifelong journey and I'll get there in my own time. Thanks for being so welcoming to me.

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That's a good attitude @LacrimalDuality. We never stop becoming the person we're supposed to be. Sorry, I didn't get to you sooner,  but I'm recovering from surgery. I'm a little out of it. Welcome to the site!

 

Hugs!

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