Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Jackie Goes For Bottom Surgery


Jackie C.

Recommended Posts

  • Forum Moderator

I almost titled this thread "Jackie Does Philadelphia," but I stopped myself. I must finally be maturing. I'll be adding to it as I go through the process and I'm able. I've never been under general anesthetic before so I have no idea how this is going to hit me. Adventure!

 

So yeah, on Febuary 4th, I'm going under Doctor Rumer's knife. Why Doctor Rumer? Because I have alopecia universalis (meaning I can't grow hair on my anywhere, BUT it could return at any time*) and can't meet the electrolysis requirements my local surgeon has. This actually applies to most surgeons. I shopped around a lot, but stayed within the continental United States before I could find a surgeon who would have me. So after six months or so, here we are. I managed to squeak in before my birthday this year though, so I'm super happy about that.

 

So for prep, I spent the last two years exercising as much as I could stand. I started slow, but my workouts now last about three hours and are fairly intense. My upper arms are screaming at me right now about what I did to them Friday. Don't worry, they'll get over it. I lost 110 pounds of fat. Gained who knows how much muscle and about twenty pounds of water weight in the last four weeks when they took me off Spiro. I don't feel bloated, but my body is retaining pretty much every ounce of fluid I drink. Stupid metabolism. Still, I'm under the weight limit for my height so off to the surgeon I go!

 

Part One: Packing

 

I'm packing for the trip today. I'm glad I don't need a lot of clothes for the trip because my suitcase is FULL of supplies. I've got a memory-foam donut, my wig head, a pack of bed pads, a pack of vaginal wipes, a package of depends, my body wash and a toothbrush. I managed to squeeze in two pairs of socks, two pairs of underwear, my nightshirt, my skirt and a pair of t-shirts to wear while I'm there. Plus the clothes on my back. My suitcase is FULL.

My purse is full of medications to get me through the trip plus my phone and an extra copy of our tickets. Just in case.

For carry-on, I filled my backpack with the rest of the medication I need to get through my day plus hibicleanse, my bowel purge kit, my kindle, my tablet, a bluetooth keyboard and charging cables. There's a little wiggle room for my fox ears because I'd rather not be bald until I have to be. They can admire themselves in my scalp once I'm unconscious.

 

This part is unique to me, but Susan has celiac disease so whenever we go anywhere she packs like we're tackling the Oregon trail. We'll have gluten free bread, a variety of instant soups, two kinds of deli sandwich spread and oatmeal. I plan to eat whatever the hospital gives me with gusto. I am like the mighty cockroach.

 

Susan's out getting more luggage tags, so I'm just doing the dishes and cooling my heels until it's time to head out to lunch. We decided on a late lunch so we could clean out the refrigerator as much as possible. We're hitting the buffet so there won't be any leftovers to worry about and we'll both be full like ticks. Skips the hassle of dinner too.

 

Well, off to my grand adventure! My attendance is probably going to be spotty for the next couple of weeks. I'll be on when I can and continue my epic tale when I'm able! Good luck everyone! I'm having an adventure!

 

Hugs!

 

* I mean it probably, almost certainly won't, but it COULD. Doctors like to cover their butts in America.

Link to comment
  • Replies 312
  • Created
  • Last Reply

Top Posters In This Topic

  • Jackie C.

    97

  • Susan R

    27

  • ShawnaLeigh

    27

  • Jani

    13

Top Posters In This Topic

Posted Images

Omg I am so excited for you!!!!  I will pray for a great surgery and an easy recovery for you.  I will be waiting as patiently as I can for your return here to TP!!!

Please keep us posted.  I want pictures and play by play action And everything!   Lol

(ok maybe not pictures.)

Good luck sweetie and you got this!

 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator
4 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Well, off to my grand adventure! My attendance is probably going to be spotty for the next couple of weeks. I'll be on when I can and continue my epic tale when I'm able! Good luck everyone! I'm having an adventure!

Oh, I want to hear all about this adventure whenever you have a moment and feel up to it after the surgery.  I am so happy for you.  You seem in excellent spirits too, Jackie.

 

I have to mention...I got a big chuckle off your descriptive humor regarding the packing for the trip.  You’re taking it all in stride and it’s nice to see.

4 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

so whenever we go anywhere she packs like we're tackling the Oregon trail.

Reminds me of my wife’s packing for trips.  I just love your humor. ?

 

Best of Luck and Be Safe,

Susan R?

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Wishing you good results and a swift, easy recovery.

 

Regards,

Kathy

Link to comment

You got this!! I hope you get the chance to share with us what the entire experience was like and how it feels now to be post-op ?

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Right now it feels like I didn't get enough sleep. I've been on a train all night. One more train trip to go before I arrive. Then the bowel purge. That will be fun. Still in high spirits though! See you on the other side!

 

Hugs!

Link to comment

Good luck Jackie. Sounds like you’ve done some good planning and prep, an important part to any recovery. I wish you a speedy and easy recovery. Hugs!

Link to comment

The very best of luck Jackie.  We are all pulling for you.

Don't give the nurses a hard time.  They are your lifeline.  LOL

Take care and keep us posted!

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Thank you everyone! I'm currently on the hotel wi-fi and waiting for the Purge to begin. Not sure if I like this keyboard. I'm already missing my rig.

 

PART 1.5 -- THE RIDE

 

To save money, we took the bus... and a couple of trains... to get here. The one universal rule of mass transit seems to be that you're glad when it's over. So three nights of poor sleep later... I'm not sure they'll need anesthetic to put me under. A hot flash while trying to sleep in a train seat is my new least favorite thing. The station in Philly is very nice. We've got a commanding view of the skyline from our room... which is also very nice. The room that is. The skyline is just buildings. Different buildings, but that's not really my jam.

 

Mad respect for Susan's decision to just use Taxi service while we're here. Traffic in the city is nuts.

 

Hugs!

 

 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Glad you arrived safely Jackie.  Now be sure to get some much need quality sleep before you go under.

 

My Best,

Susan R?

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I used Uber to get around the several times I flew in to the Philadelphia area.  It works easily and is inexpensive.  

 

Jani 

Link to comment

OOh, Jackie, I'm so excited for you!  We'll keep you im our thoughts, and you keep us posted, m'kay?

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

No promises after tonight. I'll do what I can, but I won't have anything besides maybe my phone until Friday. No idea how much of a hot mess I'll be either. I'll post when I  can though. Tomorrow starts early. 

 

Hugs!

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Part Two - The Bowel Cleanse

 

So this part begs some discussion. The night before, my surgeon had me perform a bowel cleaning. We accomplish that with two bottles of mag citrate, laxatives, and whatever was in those prescription drugs. That's important. 

Your bowels turn into basically a log ride. The kind where everyone gets a little wet.

 

By 11am I had thought that the worst was over and fell into a much needed sleep. For about three hours. When I woke up, I thought I had just had a hot flash and soaked through my underwear. The horror didn't fully emerge until I was back in the bathroom. Casualties include one of my good pairs of panties and my nightshirt. Hopefully housekeeping can save the sheets. Susan has been very understanding, but now I'm afraid to go back to sleep. 

 

Let my folly be a warning. Depends are your friends. Especially if you have a second hit of laxatives just before bed.

 

Yes. Ew. I am absolutely mortified. I don't want to gloss this part over though if it can save one of my sisters in the future so harken and listen well!

 

I also still have an enema at 4am.

 

No hugs this time. I showered in Hibiclens, but I still feel gross.

Link to comment

Oh my! I know it's not very feminine but I'm a sucker for potty humor ☺️. But I'm intentionally not visualizing...

 

I'm so excited for you Jackie! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers today!

 

Belle ❤

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I should also mention that mag citrate comes in flavors. Cherry was OK. Not the best I've ever had, but OK for laxative. Grape was awful. I got it down, but shuddered after every gulp. So gross. I usually like grape flavor but this stuff? Ick.

 

Beginning to see the (toilet) humor, but still mortified. I may still die of embarrassment. 

 

Hugs! You should wash your hands though. 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Interlude

 

So here I am, lying on top of a leak pad and reading a book. Tiamat's Wrath if you were curious about what I read for fun. Susan is snoring in the other bed. Probably safer and one of us should get some rest. I love that woman very, very much. I'm glad she has a little peace. 

 

I'm thinking about my surgery tomorrow and thinking about what I'm feeling. Besides hunger. I haven't eaten since 4PM Sunday. 

I'm not afraid. I'm more worried that my nightshirt won't come clean than I am about today. 

There's excitement. I need this and I think I'm looking forward to it being finished. It's more like correcting a flaw excitement. Maybe excitement isn't the right word. Relief feels better. This thing nature saddled me with is getting a radical make-over today. With hard work and time, it will be as close as I can get to having the body I should have had all along. 

 

Being trans is about struggle. We work to deny ourselves. When that fails we work for acceptance. First from within to accept our own truth. Then again to get the world to let us live as we must. We struggle with our families, both blood and found, to find love. Some fights are harder than others. Some fights we lose. We keep fighting because what other choice do we have? Bit by bit we force a life into being. Our lives. Lives we can live with pride and dignity. 

I've been blessed. I have a lovely wife and good friends who accept me. My blood family won't talk to me, but that's their loss. They don't deserve to know the wonderful woman that I have become. 

 

So here I am. Sleepless and on the cusp of a life-changing surgery that society says I need to claim my life and I only feel at peace. I feel serene and full of hope. It's been too long coming, but I finally feel free.

 

And a little gross. My teeth need brushing, I need to start my enema and I want to shower for like a week.

 

Hugs!

Link to comment

Jackie, I’ve bowel prepped before, I completely understand the mortification. I thought it was finished on several occasions to my own peril. 
 

Just in case, I think I’ll go with head pats instead of hugs. All the best in your recovery. 

Link to comment

Jackie your words were indeed beautiful and spoke to how so many of us feel.

I am very excited for you and smile every time I think of you.  

I too have been a victim of pre-surgery bowel cleansings and your are so right.  It never seems to end.  

Good Luck in there and don't mover when they start to...  Well you know.

Take care girl!

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   6 Members, 0 Anonymous, 175 Guests (See full list)

    • violet r
    • Adrianna Danielle
    • Lenneth
    • KathyLauren
    • VickySGV
    • SamC
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      768.4k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,025
    • Most Online
      8,356

    JamesyGreen
    Newest Member
    JamesyGreen
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Alscully
      Alscully
      (35 years old)
    2. floruisse
      floruisse
      (40 years old)
    3. Jasmine25
      Jasmine25
      (22 years old)
    4. Trev0rK
      Trev0rK
      (26 years old)
  • Posts

    • Davie
    • Abigail Genevieve
      "I love you so much,"  Lois said.  They met in the driveway. "I could not live without you." "Neither could I." "What are we going to do?" "Find another counselor?" "No. I think we need to solve this ourselves." "Do you think we can?" "I don't know.  But what I know is that I don't want to go through that again.  I think we have to hope we can find a solution." "Otherwise, despair." "Yeah.   Truce?" "Okay,  truce." And they hugged.   "When we know what we want we can figure out how to get there."   That began six years of angry battles, with Odie insisted he could dress as he pleased and Lois insisting it did not please her at all.  He told her she was not going to control him and she replied that she still had rights as a wife to a husband. Neither was willing to give in, neither was willing to quit, and their heated arguments ended in hugs and more.   They went to a Crossdressers' Club, where they hoped to meet other couples with the same problems, the same conflicts, and the same answers, if anyone had any.  It took them four tries before they settled on a group that they were both willing to participate in.  This was four couples their own age, each with a cross dressing husband and a wife who was dealing with it.  They met monthly.  It was led by a 'mediator' who wanted people to express how they felt about the situation.  Odie and Lois, as newcomers, got the floor, and the meeting was finally dismissed at 1:30 in the morning - it was supposed to be over at 10 - and everyone knew how they felt about the situation.   There was silence in the car on the way home.   "We aren't the only ones dealing with this." Odie finally said.   "Who would have thought that?  You are right."   "Somebody out there has a solution." "I hope you are right."   "I hope in hope, not in despair."   "That's my Odie."    
    • Abigail Genevieve
      The counseling session was heated, if you could call it a counseling session.  Sometimes Lois felt he was on Odie's side, and sometimes on hers.  When he was on her side, Odie got defensive. She found herself being defensive when it seemed they were ganging up on each other.   "This is not working," Lois said angrily, and walked out.  "Never again. I want my husband back. Dr. Smith you are complicit in this."   "What?" said Odie.   The counselor looked at him.  "You will have to learn some listening skills."   "That is it? Listening skills?  You just destroyed my marriage, and you told me I need to learn listening skills?"   Dr. Smith said calmly,"I think you both need to cool off."   Odie looked at him and walked out, saying "And you call yourself a counselor."   "Wait a minute."   "No."
    • Ashley0616
      Just a comfortable gray sweater dress and some sneakers. Nothing special today. 
    • VickySGV
      I do still carry a Swiss Army knife along with my car keys.  
    • Timi
      Jeans and a white sweater. And cute white sneakers. Delivering balloons to a bunch of restaurants supporting our LGBT Community Center fundraiser today!
    • April Marie
      Congratulations to you!!!This is so wonderful!!
    • missyjo
      I've no desire to present androgynous..nothing wrong with it but I am a girl n wish to present as a girl. shrugs, if androgynous works fir others good. always happy someone finds a solution or happiness    today black jeans  black wedges..purple camisole under white n black polka dot blouse half open   soft smile to all 
    • MaeBe
      I have read some of it, mostly in areas specifically targeted at the LGBTQ+ peoples.   You also have to take into account what and who is behind the words, not just the words themselves. Together that creates context, right? Let's take some examples, under the Department of Health & Human Services section:   "Radical actors inside and outside government are promoting harmful identity politics that replaces biological sex with subjective notions of “gender identity” and bases a person’s worth on his or her race, sex, or other identities. This destructive dogma, under the guise of “equity,” threatens American’s fundamental liberties as well as the health and well-being of children and adults alike."   or   "Families comprised of a married mother, father, and their children are the foundation of a well-ordered nation and healthy society. Unfortunately, family policies and programs under President Biden’s HHS are fraught with agenda items focusing on “LGBTQ+ equity,” subsidizing single-motherhood, disincentivizing work, and penalizing marriage. These policies should be repealed and replaced by policies that support the formation of stable, married, nuclear families."   From a wording perspective, who doesn't want to protect the health and well-being of Americans or think that families aren't good for America? But let's take a look at the author, Roger Severino. He's well-quoted to be against LGBTQ+ anything, has standard christian nationalist views, supports conversion therapy, etc.   So when he uses words like "threatens the health and well-being of children and adults alike" it's not about actual health, it's about enforcing cis-gendered ideology because he (and the rest of the Heritage Foundation) believe LGBTQ+ people and communities are harmful. Or when he invokes the family through the lens of, let's just say dog whistles including the "penalization of marriage" (how and where?!), he idealizes families involving marriage of a "biological male to a biological female" and associates LGBTQ+ family equity as something unhealthy.   Who are the radical actors? Who is telling people to be trans, gay, or queer in general? No one. The idea that there can be any sort of equity between LGBTQ+ people and "normal" cis people is abhorrent to the author, so the loaded language of radical/destructive/guise/threaten are used. Families that he believes are "good" are stable/well-ordered/healthy, specifically married/nuclear ones.   Start looking into intersectionality of oppression of non-privileged groups and how that affects the concept of the family and you will understand that these platitudes are thinly veiled wrappers for christian nationalist ideology.   What's wrong with equity for queer families, to allow them full rights as parents, who are bringing up smart and able children? Or single mothers who are working three jobs to get food on plates?
    • Ashley0616
      Well yesterday didn't work like I wanted to. I met a guy and started talking and he was wanting to be in a relationship. I asked my kids on how they thought of me dating a man and they said gross and said no. I guess it's time to look for women. I think that is going to be harder. Oh well I guess.  
    • Ashley0616
      I don't have anything in my dress pocket
    • Carolyn Marie
      This topic reminds me of the lyrics to the Beatles song, "A Little Help From My Friends."   "What do you see when you turn out the lights?"   "I can't tell you but I know it's mine."   Carolyn Marie
    • Abigail Genevieve
      @Ivy have you read the actual document?   Has anyone else out there read it?
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I am reading the Project 2025 document https://www.project2025.org/policy/   This will take some time.  I read the forward and I want to read it again later.   I read some criticism of it outside here and I will be looking for it in the light of what has been posted here and there.  Some of the criticism is bosh.   @MaeBe have you read the actual document?
    • RaineOnYourParade
      *older, not holder, oops :P
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...