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Jackie C.

Jackie Goes For Bottom Surgery

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Jani
6 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

For the first time, yes Doctor Rumer did it in office. After that, well, the power is yours.

Sort of like training wheels on your first bicycle.  You'll be wobbly at first but then it becomes natural.

 

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Jackie C.

Yeah, I'm thinking it'll be less uncomfortable as the swelling goes down. That can happen any minute now. Any minute...

 

Hugs!

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ShawnaLeigh

Well your profile pic still shows you smiling.  How bad can it be?  LOL

Just Kidding .  I'm sure you are a lot tougher then I will be during that.  

Ouch.

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Jackie C.

Swelling up for no good reason is apparently one of my super powers. I kind of expected it after I had my eyebrows done. The swelling really freaked out my tattoo artist.

 

I'm hoping the downstairs remodel heals as nicely. Right now it looks more like somebody dropped a roast beef sandwich. 

 

Hugs!

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TammyAnne

Maybe you should change your thread title to "Jackie goes for lay down comedy routine, knocks it out of the park"?

On a more serious note though, if you're at all like me, the humor is to disguise the discomfort. I hope you heal quickly and can get back to your regular routines.

《《《 Big hug 》》》

TA

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Jackie C.

Got me. Humor is how I deal with stress. Surprisingly comfortable here in the lounge though. I think I'm getting the hang of how to sit. I hope so anyway. There's a lot more sitting before I'm home.

 

Hugs!

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Susan R
3 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

I'm hoping the downstairs remodel heals as nicely. Right now it looks more like somebody dropped a roast beef sandwich. 

Jackie, glad all is going well with the exception of the swelling you’re having.  One of my lady friends just had her revision revised again because after her swelling went down, she had trouble with the direction of her urinary stream.  Have you had any issues with regards to this?

 

My Best,

Susan R🌷

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Jani

It does tend to be a little "messy"looking for a bit.  I couldn't look for a week (weak stomach)!

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Jackie C.
15 hours ago, Susan R said:

Jackie, glad all is going well with the exception of the swelling you’re having.  One of my lady friends just had her revision revised again because after her swelling went down, she had trouble with the direction of her urinary stream.  Have you had any issues with regards to this?

 

My Best,

Susan R🌷

 

Right now it goes basically everywhere and makes a hissing noise like a nest of snakes. I'm still very, very swollen though. 

 

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Timber Wolf

Heal quickly Jackie, and congratulations!😄

 

Lots of love, 

Timber Wolf 🐾

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Susan R
4 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Right now it goes basically everywhere and makes a hissing noise like a nest of snakes. I'm still very, very swollen though.

Thank you for the update Jackie..hope you stay in good spirits!

 

Susan R🌷

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Jackie C.

I'm going to dilate at noon then take a nap in my own bed. That's as about as close to heaven as I can imagine right now.

 

Hugs!

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Robin68
4 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

I'm going to dilate at noon then take a nap in my own bed. That's as about as close to heaven as I can imagine right now.

I hope you are resting peacefully. It sounds like you are making some progress in your recovery.

 

Hugs,

 

Robin68

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Laura76

Yes, Jackie C. love hearing about your progress. It's what I will be going through in a few months.

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Laura76
On 2/12/2020 at 8:40 AM, Jackie C. said:

Swelling up for no good reason is apparently one of my super powers. I kind of expected it after I had my eyebrows done. The swelling really freaked out my tattoo artist.

 

I'm hoping the downstairs remodel heals as nicely. Right now it looks more like somebody dropped a roast beef sandwich. 

 

Hugs!

Jackie C,  when you say things like this I just bust out laughing. I hope I don't think about what you said and start laughing in the operating theater before I am put under.  When I went in for my FFS I was very teary-eyed until I was put under.

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MetaLicious
5 hours ago, Laura76 said:

Jackie C,  when you say things like this I just bust out laughing...

I know, right? Her description of undergoing surgery (of all things!) has been one of the most entertaining reads in my life! She's the best anti-depressant I've ever taken!

 

Side effects may include uncontrollable outbursts of laughter, coffee-covered keyboards, and puzzled onlookers. Ask your doctor if Jackie C. is right for you!

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Jackie C.

Milestone last night: I slept on my SIDE! You have no idea how wonderful that was. As a bonus, I also didn't wake myself with my own snoring. That happened a LOT on the train.

 

The night sweats are somewhere around "Monsoon" levels. I'm a little surprised I didn't float out of bed. Four more days until I can start my precious HRT again.

 

The cats are remarkably curious about dilation, and want to help. Fortunately, the latch on the door works. I'm having enough trouble keeping my schedule thank you very much.

 

Hugs!

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ShawnaLeigh

So glad to hear things are going forward at a good pace Jackie!  

Again you make me giggle over the cats and their willingness to help.  You slay me some days.

Thank you I needed a good laugh as this day is not a good one for me.

 

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Jackie C.
35 minutes ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

So glad to hear things are going forward at a good pace Jackie!  

Again you make me giggle over the cats and their willingness to help.  You slay me some days.

Thank you I needed a good laugh as this day is not a good one for me.

 

 

I thought you were getting pampered today! With a glamour shoot! That sounds awesome! Especially to someone is dreading going downstairs to move the laundry into the dryer. The basement steps are HARD.

 

Hugs!

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ShawnaLeigh
36 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

 

I thought you were getting pampered today! With a glamour shoot! That sounds awesome! Especially to someone is dreading going downstairs to move the laundry into the dryer. The basement steps are HARD.

 

Hugs!

That's later. 

I'm at work by myself pining over my failing marriage and trying to stay focused.  

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lauraincolumbia
1 hour ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

That's later. 

I'm at work by myself pining over my failing marriage and trying to stay focused.  

Sorry about your marriage. 

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Jani

@Jackie C. I'm a side sleeper and I was told to put a pillow between my legs for support for at least a few weeks.  Concerning the night sweats, it could be the result of you going back on estrogen after being off for surgery.  My doctor cleared me one week afterwards.  I went back to full dose and really had trouble so I cut back to half for a couple weeks  (I use patches) which saved me.  

 

Hugs, Jani

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Jackie C.

Hey @Jani! I'm not back on my precious, precious E again until Tuesday. My internal thermometer has been on a rampage since about two weeks before surgery and it only got worse afterwards. I've been bouncing back and forth from "Dear goddess, it's hot!" and "When did it get so cold? What can we light on fire?" with not a lot in between. The night sweats have been prodigious. The pillow is a good idea though. It should take some pressure off my nethers. Between your thighs, knees or calves? I'm guessing thighs. That seems to be where the most swelling is.

 

@ShawnaLeigh, your marriage is completely out of your hands. All you can do is be the best wife you can be and hope she changes her mind. My wife has trouble with this too. Worrying over things where you can't affect the outcome doesn't help anyone. Instead, look forward to the pampering a little? I would LOVE to be able to take advantage of something like that. In a couple months. When I can move right again.

And maybe get some work done. It sounds like you've got a pretty cool place of business, it would be a shame if they had to delete you for something as silly as not doing your job.

 

In the meantime, pampering, upcoming orchi, hot lesbian doctor... honestly, that sounds like the lead in for some niche porn.

 

Hugs!

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ShawnaLeigh
34 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

And maybe get some work done. It sounds like you've got a pretty cool place of business, it would be a shame if they had to delete you for something as silly as not doing your job.

 

In this I have no worries.  I have completed 8 hours of work orders in 5 hours.  I take a break or two throughout the day.  LOL

Plus I work alone so there is no one here to watch over me.  LOL

35 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

In the meantime, pampering, upcoming orchi, hot lesbian doctor... honestly, that sounds like the lead in for some niche porn.

OMG You really got me on that one.

Hmmmmmm…….

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Laura76
5 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

 

I thought you were getting pampered today! With a glamour shoot! That sounds awesome! Especially to someone is dreading going downstairs to move the laundry into the dryer. The basement steps are HARD.

 

Hugs!

Jackie C, you did it again...this time I blew coffee out my nose😂

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