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Charlize

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 When i first visited this forum, which had a different name at the time, i was searching for some self acceptance and the acceptance of others.  The ideas of resources for shoes etc was important but that feeling of finally fitting in somewhere may have been the most important thing at that point.   Time, both here and in life has given me a wonderful life in which I'm actually comfortable as myself.  Who would have thought that possible?  Not me.  

If your new here or having trouble keep coming.  Try to help others and soon you'll be helping yourself.

 

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Charlize

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Good Morning Charlize, indeed having a forum to share ideas on, is a real asset. Helping others does indeed come back to you, in ways you could never imagine.

 

Hugs and smiles

 

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So true!  Giving your time is one of the best ways to move forward and arrive at what you need. 

 

Great post Charlize! 

Jani

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5 hours ago, Charlize said:

... but that feeling of finally fitting in somewhere may have been the most important thing at that point.   Time, both here and in life has given me a wonderful life in which I'm actually comfortable as myself...

I finally feel like I'm where I belong. This forum and everyone here is so supportive ? ~Toni

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2 hours ago, ToniTone said:

I finally feel like I'm where I belong.

You are where you belong.  It’s always a pleasure to read your posts here.  You are an important facet and certainly add to what is good about this place!

 

Susan R?

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8 hours ago, Charlize said:

If your new here or having trouble keep coming.  Try to help others and soon you'll be helping yourself.

Words of wisdom @Charlize! It’s very therapeutic helping others that are experiencing similar difficulties you’re experiencing or have overcome.  It’s even better when you see others making incremental progress in their journey.

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Charlize, your insights and experiences have always been an inspiration, and continue to be.  Thanks for all you do and have done.

 

:applause:  :goodjob:

 

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Carolyn Marie

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9 hours ago, Charlize said:

Try to help others and soon you'll be helping yourself.

This is how I have found how important it was to open up and ask questions no matter how ridiculous or stupid you think it is.  I had asked many of those questions and started to understand how things work.  More about myself and then as time has gone by I was able to help others.  It feels good to help.   

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Thank you Susan, thanks y'all ?

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You girls on this forum have saved my life more than once.

 

I love you all!

 

Belle ❤

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I mouth the same thoughts you all have post. I no well but at least , I feel a little better after reading some of posts, sharing my experiences and taking in the insight of you wonderful people...Thanks  

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18 hours ago, Charlize said:

 

If your new here or having trouble keep coming.  Try to help others and soon you'll be helping yourself.

 

 

That is something I firmly believe in Charlize. It's good to point it out from time to time.

 

Thank you for being here.

 

Tracy

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On 2/3/2020 at 7:27 AM, Charlize said:

Try to help others and soon you'll be helping yourself.

I find it's so easy to help others, yet I can be so hard on myself.  Helping others, especially with kind words, can be great practice for helping yourself. 

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