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Mary Jane

Anyone have any advice on how to choose the right job?

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Mary Jane

Just asking because my parents are putting the pressure of jobs on me already even when they don’t need to yet (I’m 16 tho so I understand why they’re doing it but they’re also forcing me to). The first one I went for was game developer as in coding the games to be honest I can do it but if I do I’m going to constantly be annoyed While coding (probably every coder is) and I did want to make games before as in the part where you actually make it (a game needs code for it to be a game) but let’s be real most parents want they’re children to have successful jobs right well what are the chances some big company will let me in instantly when I can’t even memorize the code I can understand it but not memorize it and if you’ve watched the right things this probably seems like a moment in my life where I just need the right help and if I get it I’ll go continue the first thing I was doing

im also going to ask my guidance counselor at my high school for help but hopefully I can get help here or somewhere else too

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VickySGV
1 hour ago, Markjvp said:

im also going to ask my guidance counselor at my high school for help

 

Start there since the counselor will know things about you that you may not want to share here.  If it is something that interests you and that you can give an honest effort to then look for sources to get it.  I was a government employee as a career of 40 years and while not a job I had envisioned as a person your age, it became a passion for me and even though frustrating some days it felt right and lasted.

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Jani

The best advise it keep your mind open to all opportunities.  A job you may take to get by may open to another that you love.  I worked in logistics and transportation and as Vicky noted it wasn't a career I though of when I was younger yet it was one that I was passionate about.  The old axiom about doing what you love and never "working" is so true. 

 

Jani 

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Mary Jane

Thank you, and Jani I do keep my mind open problem is my parents are pretty closed minded like I took cooking in school my dad says it's a waste of time but if you think about it if I finally learn something from it it won't be a waste especially if I have to cook one day otherwise it is just a waste of time

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Mary Jane

Anyone have more advice?

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Susan R

I hope you parents aren’t too hard on you about the type of job you get at this stage in the game.  You’re still young and job opportunities are much more limited at your age as compared to someone out of college.  Even with a college education these days the job market is a crapshoot.  I’m not saying you can’t find a good job but realistically you're probably going to go through a half dozen different jobs before you turn 25.

 

That being said, what jobs are you interested in?  Do your friends have jobs that sound like something you might like to do also.  When I was your age I took up a few jobs that my friends had only because they let me know about an opportunity that became available.  Let’s say you like sports or the outdoors, for instance.  Why not see if the local YMCA, your city’s Parks and Recreation dept. or Local Boys and Girls Club have any openings.  I did some work for them when I was younger and it was great.  I spent a lot of my time with kids and was outdoors much of the time.

 

Another place where you can sometimes get good information is your local library.  Our community library has weekly workshops for helping people to find and get jobs.  Our local Dept. of Social and Health Services office also has job training and information on many interesting jobs.  Bottom line... the information is out there.  Make some calls, talk to a few people and see where it takes you.


Best of luck on the job search,

Susan R🌷

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Mary Jane

Well I don't know how hard my parents are pressuring me but I know they're forcing me to do game development related things, and it's true that I'm not going to do a game development thing right away. What jobs I'm interested in well from the start I was mainly interested in making games as in coding them I still am today but I'm also interested in other things right now those are artist and race car racer I might have other interests but my parents doesn't let me try things in and out of the school and right now I'm still being forced to only go for things related to game development, I know they're trying to help but out of everything I know on the class they're forcing on me (concept art) it won't help because it's most related to film sure you draw characters and maybe more but that's about it and even film doesn't help much if that's forced on me because that's like only cut scenes. I know this huge storm, huge wall, huge battle is going to be over soon and another maybe smaller is going to come but I can survive it 

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Jani

I remember years ago when one of my cousins took coding classes only to realize once in a developer job that he hated it.  He eventually became a pipe fitter.  It was a job he got through a friend.  He's done this for years and he enjoys it.  

 

As to art, I considered this as I loved to paint, draw and sculpt.  But I recognized while in college that supporting myself as an artist would be hard.  I kept it as a hobby.  As to race car driver, those openings are far and few between.  I amateur raced for 30+ years and none of my colleagues ever made it to the big time.  Today its all about talent and marketing.  All the young drivers have sponsors with deep pockets.  If you think this is an environment you would like to be in, go to school for engineering focusing on a college with a vehicle dynamics program.  This is a wide open area to work in.  

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MiraM
18 hours ago, Markjvp said:

Thank you, and Jani I do keep my mind open problem is my parents are pretty closed minded like I took cooking in school my dad says it's a waste of time but if you think about it if I finally learn something from it it won't be a waste especially if I have to cook one day otherwise it is just a waste of time

I don't really understand how cooking is a waste of a persons time.  I have been a Professional Chef for the last 20 years.  It's a good, although stressful career.  People have to eat, and that doesn't seem likely to change any time soon.

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MetaLicious
1 hour ago, MiraM said:

I don't really understand how cooking is a waste of a persons time.  I have been a Professional Chef for the last 20 years.  It's a good, although stressful career.  People have to eat, and that doesn't seem likely to change any time soon.

I know, right?  Like, people everywhere need to eat, without exception.  Game development is an awesome idea, but the number of openings in that field are dwarfed by the number of openings in the kitchens of restaursnts.  Or the kitchen in your own home!  I cannot roll my eyes hard enough at the notion of cooking being a waste of time...

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Jani
37 minutes ago, MetaLicious said:

I cannot roll my eyes hard enough at the notion of cooking being a waste of time...

Exactly!  I look at food preparation as another form of artistry.  Sure it can be mundane at times but its all what you make of it.  Good food is a cause for celebration!   

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Mary Jane
2 hours ago, MiraM said:

I don't really understand how cooking is a waste of a persons time.  I have been a Professional Chef for the last 20 years.  It's a good, although stressful career.  People have to eat, and that doesn't seem likely to change any time soon.

 

1 hour ago, MetaLicious said:

I know, right?  Like, people everywhere need to eat, without exception.  Game development is an awesome idea, but the number of openings in that field are dwarfed by the number of openings in the kitchens of restaursnts.  Or the kitchen in your own home!  I cannot roll my eyes hard enough at the notion of cooking being a waste of time...

 

58 minutes ago, Jani said:

Exactly!  I look at food preparation as another form of artistry.  Sure it can be mundane at times but its all what you make of it.  Good food is a cause for celebration!   

Yea true so how can someone say it’s a waste of time? Well my dad is just looking at jobs both my parents are and they’re bringing up the pretty classic we won’t always be there thing so then what I think they should do is teach me more than laundry or vacuuming sure those are good but good for saving my life? No or even let me explore things at school. I honestly don’t know how smart my parents are but I know I’m more open to things than both of them

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VickySGV

You are in Canada so I don't know if there is something similar up there, but the U.S. Military Services have an aptitude test they give to prospective recruits without obligation to join. Some recruiters came to my HS in my Sophomore year and I took it and it gave me some ideas I had not thought of before.  The tests are based on interest and on acquired skills that you currently have.  One of my first jobs however was cooking at a fast food chain. 

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Mary Jane
3 hours ago, VickySGV said:

You are in Canada so I don't know if there is something similar up there, but the U.S. Military Services have an aptitude test they give to prospective recruits without obligation to join. Some recruiters came to my HS in my Sophomore year and I took it and it gave me some ideas I had not thought of before.  The tests are based on interest and on acquired skills that you currently have.  One of my first jobs however was cooking at a fast food chain. 

Yea most likely where I live we don't

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The Viv Element

Has anyone suggested volunteering yet? Is that something you could do while studying to keep your parents off your back? Do they want you to make money or do they just want you to stay productive? Because if its fine with your parents, you could always volunteer for lots of things, like helping the elderly, or cleaning up the streets/beaches littered with trash, or even those places that help serve food to the homelessness, etc. I'm going to start looking around my city for volunteering programs because I too, need to do something with my life. I hear volunteering puts a good look on your resume so that would be a boost for you when you figure out what field you want to study in.

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Mary Jane

I’m pretty sure they just want me to make money but the making games career is stil at least 2 years away if you don’t include how much time I might be in university and I’m not sure if I can volunteer I know there’s like a volunteer option for my school but I think it’s in the school plus a class so if it is that means I need to do that and the other classes which I’m guessing is going to be pretty hard and too annoying for me to do

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