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Damien Mcknight

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Damien Mcknight

Okay so I’m already in a relationship but I got a crush! I don’t know what to do! I don’t wanna hurt anyone’s feelings hhhh- What do I do?!?!

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Carolyn Marie

Well, Damien, I hate to break it to you, but in this case hurting someone is going to be the reality if you end one relationship to start another.  You have to decide who you really have that special connection with, and whether the joy and pleasure of the new relationship is worth the pain you will inflict on your current partner.  That is something only you can figure out.  I wish you the best.

 

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Damien Mcknight

Thanks

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ShawnaLeigh
3 hours ago, Carolyn Marie said:

Well, Damien, I hate to break it to you, but in this case hurting someone is going to be the reality if you end one relationship to start another.  You have to decide who you really have that special connection with, and whether the joy and pleasure of the new relationship is worth the pain you will inflict on your current partner.  That is something only you can figure out.  I wish you the best.

 

Carolyn Marie

Yep she said it best.  But follow your heart.  If you do please do the right thing and don’t cheat on anyone.  That’s WAY worse.  Be honest with yourself and then with who you don’t chose to be with.  

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