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Debra Michelle

Been a great role model

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Debra Michelle

Been a great role model to my son Aaron whom cross-dresses fulltime since last month going by Erin now.Erin grew up like me,transgender in a way.She remembers liking feminine clothing at age 8 including the heels.Her bio mom whom I get along sensed it too there was something different about her.Mom is also supportive,loves and accepts Erin as a daughter now.I helped her out through her journey finding this.Did get to crossdress when she was in the military on her off time,6 years in the Marines.Erin and I had the talk one day and told me she wanted to go fulltime as Erin.Told her it was her choice and not mine supporting her knowing she will have a much happier life.Good thing is Erin has support from her fiancé too.Ever since,Erin and I have been much closer and knows I have been much happier since I had my GCS last month.Erin is relieved she has support and does go to a support group for transgender veterans whom support her as well.Erin's later plans in her life,stay like this and has a breast augmentation next month.I will be there for support when she has her breast augmentation.This is the only surgery she wants.I am proud of her,lives a good life now and just turned 25 yesterday.

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Cyndee

Wow, what a story Debra Michelle, thanks for sharing with us, and congratulations to your family :)

 

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Cyndee 

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Debra Michelle

I am going to guide Erin through the breast augmentation recovery process.Erin decided to have the through the armpit procedure done,quicker recovery.Learned from me,don't let anything hold you back.Erin's mom,we are friends and never dated.We decided to have unprotected sex when we were 15 one night and I didn't wear a condom.3 days later,she found out she was pregnant.I did help out through the pregnancy and have been in Erin's life ever since

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ShawnaLeigh

Wonderful story.  Thank you for sharing.  I would of loved to have a person in my life like you when I was young.  

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Ms Maddie

Proud of you and Erin, Debra.  Good to read. Thank you for posting, and best wishes for her upcoming procedure.

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