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My brother has finally ticked off my explosion meter. I was doing so good too, but I drew the line when he called me and my friend on the bus "f*ggots" I ignored it so I wouldn't cause a scene but a few days later (Today) I lost it because he brought it up again. I usually don't resort to violence, but I have had enough of his shizzle he is going to be 18 next week and joining the navy in July, he should know that he isn't allowed to discriminate. I could care less that he called me the name, no one messes with my friends. He had it coming, I know it hurt him and I have no pity for him, he can throw some ice on it and grow up. I think I got my message across, I am sorry to those who would never recommend violence, I truly am sorry but he has been pissing me off like it was a game. Little did he know I stay up working out and building muscle, thanks to months of working out I can bench over 100 lbs. 
 

I did get in trouble and I took full responsibility.  

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While violence should never be your go-to response, if it wasn't occasionally necessary we wouldn't have police or the military. You are absolutely right: He should have known better, you do not mess with Aidan's friends (that gets me up too), and sometimes people need an attitude adjustment upside the head. 

It's probably a toxic masculinity thing for him. Our young men are rarely taught how to be masculine in a positive way. Better you correct him than a stranger who might have been more vicious about it.

And then you took full responsibility for your actions and accepted the consequences. Well done. You're already a better man than your older brother. Well done.

 

Nice job on the press too. I can only manage about 60 lbs. for four sets of 20. I'm on bed rest and I can basically feel myself melting away. I miss gym time.

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

And then you took full responsibility for your actions and accepted the consequences. Well done. You're already a better man than your older brother. Well done.

Although I’m an older adult and parent and I feel compelled to take a stance on it’s never ok to hit someone.  
Heck I think you did good.  I was especially proud of you for taking responsibility.  Good on you.  THATS how a real man acts.  Protecting his own, Admitting fault and taking responsibility for it.
Ok so yes hitting your brother was not right but in my opinion well deserved.  He definitely should know better.  If he acts like that in the military they will hand him his arse.  I’ve seen it being in the AF for ten years.  Some guys never learn.  
 

ok now back to never hitting.  Bah.  Never mind. Lol

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I'm sorry but unless one is threatened by violence it isn't right to use it.  I hope you can find it possible to apologize.  Not for being upset but because you found it necessary to escalate.   No amount of punching will change a mind but openness and understanding can go a long way.

My brother was a pain as well when we were younger but today he is quite protective and understanding of his younger sister.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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1 hour ago, Belle said:

I didn't think that was possible any more. Sorry... off topic.

 

I still have hackles. ?

 

Hugs!

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The military services sometimes seem to cultivate an environment where "-awesome person-" is used casually to describe anyone who doesn't measure up or flagged on the two mile run, etc. Unacceptable but still very widespread.

For most of my adult life I have practiced Tai Chi Chuan, a "soft martial art" that tends to frustrate attackers because they usually fall down by themselves without any obvious reason. I don't encourage anyone to start thinking of fighting as a solution; the old cowboy movies preached that no matter how strong, fast or good you might be there's always someone out there that's stronger, faster or better. Please don't fight.

Sibling rivalry is a real thing, though. It sounds as if you may be encountering some version of that as well in the mix with your brother, Aiden.

I can promise you that your brother will come back from "boot camp" a changed person after having drill instructors treat him like an infant for weeks on end. Part of the process is forcing someone to learn self control. If that's not possible, they cannot control themselves, they are ultimately kicked out of the service. No room for bad apples.

TA

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7 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

And then you took full responsibility for your actions and accepted the consequences. Well done. You're already a better man than your older brother. Well done.

This made me smile a whole lot, thank you :)) I do try my best to be a gentleman and have manners but he needed a reality check. 

 

6 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

Ok so yes hitting your brother was not right but in my opinion well deserved.  He definitely should know better.  If he acts like that in the military they will hand him his arse.  I’ve seen it being in the AF for ten years.  Some guys never learn.  

I tried explaining this to him, even our parents explained it to him, he never learns. I told him he doesn't have to like or accept us, he just has to respect us and keep his thoughts in his own head. 

 

4 hours ago, Charlize said:

I hope you can find it possible to apologize.

I already have apologized, he ignored me like always. I also feel sorry for the reality check that his younger brother can be stronger than him. 

1 hour ago, TammyAnne said:

Tai Chi Chuan, a "soft martial art" that tends to frustrate attackers because they usually fall down by themselves without any obvious reason

This sounds like something I should look into because I hate having to use my fists, I would rather have him fall and me have time to get to his head. 

 

Thank you all for the support and advice ❤️

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I am proud of you boo, keep the good work up! It takes a very big man to apologize when he is in the right, but you are the biggest man I have ever had the pleasure to know.

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