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Alex C

Hey MayB.

Yeah i not a fan of the word passing, it just add extra  pressure to an alright stressful situation. You right Cis just try to be accept for then. Why do we need to be any dif. I am M2F and to tell you the truth once i finish with my bottom surg. I am no long trans m2f person, but a woman Cis.

So I hate that i still have facial hair, that i have to wear a wig cuz i am bald, and i do my best to " pass", but F it..I don't really care if i don't and i am going out into the world as the best version of me i can be . Be safe, BE Proud and KICK ASS

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