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Donnie_1961

I was at a low point. Having just separated from my wife of twenty five years. "When I look in your eyes...I don't see you anymore." Is what she told me before I left. I got in the car and drove. I don't know how many hundreds of miles I'd gone before I stopped at a dollar store and bought a bag of ice and a fillet knife. I drove to the next rest stop on the highway. I walked in the empty ladies room carrying the items that  I'd  purchased and entered a bathroom stall. I remember hiking up my dress and grabbing a handful of my manhood before I lifted the knife up over my head. "What am I...crazy?!!" I thought before I broke down crying and ran out the door. The nightwatchman saw me as I got in my car. He came over and knocked on the window. "Are you OK, Lady?" He asked with a look of worry and concern on his face. "I'm alright." I replied through tears before I asked where the nearest emergency hospital was.

When I got to the hospital the intake person accidentally put I pink identification band on my wrist. I was taken behind a curtain to disrobe and put on a patient gown. Then she handed me a piss cup and sent me to a bathroom. For a drug test I figured. Afterwards I laid down on a table to be examined. I fell asleep. The next thing I knew a nurse woke me up and replaced my wrist band with a blue one.

"I'm apologize for the mistake, Sir." She said "But we really thought you were female."

I smiled. "Don't worry. It happens to me all the time."

Later I talked to a psychologist and was given a prescription for an anti-depressant that I had no intention of filling. I hate pills.

Somehow just talking to somebody is what made the most difference.

What's the point here? When you are feeling overwhelmed by the circumstances of life, before you do something foolish that you'll later regret, STOP and TALK TO SOMEONE!

Be safe. Be Smart.

 

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Jani
5 hours ago, Donnie_1961 said:

What's the point here? When you are feeling overwhelmed by the circumstances of life, before you do something foolish that you'll later regret, STOP and TALK TO SOMEONE!

Be safe. Be Smart.

Thanks for writing this.  Its an important point. 

 

Jani

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Sarahnr1

I couldent agree more  WELL spoken indeed. (standing upp and aplloud)  

 

I was  once very close of just  taking an ord Scissor and get the  flipping thing  off  once and for all  ( WAY younger and Severly not  good  mentaly so dont worry im not even remotly that crazy anymore ) 

 

Thank god  you dident manage to get thru with it.  Its actually the  WORST thing you can do as the docs  needs that thing to create youre new vagina and everything  else . So cuting  that off  will infact make it  more difficult  for you to get youre SRS .

 

Other words  DONT !!!!!!         

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Charlize

I'm so glad you stayed with us and have shared your experience.  Life throws things at us that seem impossible but a bit of help and time gets us through.   Going to the hospital was the right move!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Donnie_1961

Thank you, Charlize. One of the last things my wife said to me before I left was "Don't be to proud to ask for help if you need it."

I'm glad I did.

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