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Mary Jane

I’m thinking of being Mary Jane (as in my first name will be Mary Jane) because I like my nick name (MJ) but I’ve never really liked my current name but Im ok with people like future teachers, employer, basically anyone that’s not a friend call me my current name well for now which is mark John. If you can try to think of a name where MJ still fits

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Jani

Do you need a new name?  Will you be changing it at some point?  MJ sounds good for a GF person.  

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Mary Jane

I don’t know if I’ll change my name soon but it’s good to think of a name now just in case I do

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Mary Jane

I think a gender neutral name is best right now for me

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Jani

Your profile says Genderfluid so I question whether choosing a feminine name would be in your best interest?   A neutral name would certainly be a good choice.  You can query "gender neutral names" to come up with lots of them. 

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Mary Jane

Ok and I’m not 100% sure about my gender yet but a feminine name is ok for me

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Jani

When one is unsure the best position to take is where you currently stand (until you are unsure).  

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Mary Jane

Are you basically saying go with Mary Jane? 

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Firenze

Go with whatever name you feel comfortable with, whether that be feminine or neutral. However, if you say you're genderfluid, you may want to consider a neutral name that'll work for both male and female, instead of switching back and forth, or using multiple names. 

 

I'll suggest both feminine and neutral names, if you're looking.

 

Neutral:

Maurice

Marley

Morgan

Mack

Mallory

Marion (If you like Mary)

 

Jay

Jamie

Jude

Jordan

James

 

Feminine:

Maggie

Maeve

Meredith

Michelle

Mandy

Molly

 

Jade

Jasmine

Justine

Justice

June

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Donnie_1961

Donnie is considered unisex in Europe. Which is fine by me because I didn't wanna change it anyway.

I've been using it for 58 years. I sign all my art work "Donnie". It's my trademark. Little "D". Big "O". "nnie." 

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MJ? Mary Jane Watson. That was Peter Parker"s (Spider-Man's) girl friend. I'm a big Marvel Comic's Fan.

 

Years ago when I stayed at a homeless shelter folks started calling me "BLONDIE" because of my blonde hair. I got used answering to it.

Names are sometimes difficult to come up with because they are intended to be the handle we are forced to use for the rest of our lives. Expectant parents often mull over many names before finally selecting one to use. They draw on relatives names. A son is named after the father. A daughter might carry their grandma's first name. 

 

In today's world everything is subject to change on a whim.

As for your picking a new name? If you are indeed gender fluid, as you say, then I would select a uni-sex name because it can work both ways.

 

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Donnie_1961

Please don't use Donnie. That would be too confusing.  

I'd be like. "Hey....You talking to me?" 

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Mary Jane

How about (using @J.Ryan‘s ideas) Mallory or Mallory Jordan or Mallory James as my name? If I’m going with MJ still, for me Mallory James or Mary Jane is a good match. and Mallory James for me is a good match because Mallory sounds like a female Name but James makes it balanced out because that sounds like a male name at least to me it’s like that for Mallory James 

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Firenze

At the end of the day, it's your decision. Use whatever name you feel the most comfortable with. If you like the sound of Mallory James, try it out for a while and see how you like it. 

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Mary Jane

Ok and i don’t really need to try it for a while because maybe no one can 100% be sure of how something will be for them but on most things I can know for me and I just thought of my name as Mallory James and people calling me that I like it but I still like Mary Jane too not because of Spider-Man, I just like the sound of it. also I don’t really know why I’m attached to MJ but I know I’ve always liked it

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Alex C

Hey MJ Dylan has some great ideas beside if you use MJ people will think you where name after Michael Jordon or Michael Jackson since they are mostly associated with those intials...you can always keep yr firs name ( Mark) and make it your last name..Joy Mark example...good luck 

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Mary Jane

Ok. And I've actually heard a teacher say that to me I dont remember how she reacted but when I said you can also call me MJ how I remember it is like "your so lucky to have the same nickname as Michel Jordan" it's not the exact way it went but I think it's close and I think I'll keep it as Mary Jane for now but everyone on the site can still call me mark because I don't mind being called mark when people originally don't know the other part of my first name

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Alex C

Well Mary what you decided you make it word. Be proud, Be safe and Kick Ass

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Mary Jane

thank you! 

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ShawnaLeigh

The one thing about a name is it has to speak to your and what you are in your heart.

Getting suggestions is fine as not everyone can figure this out on their own at first but in the end it has to be comfortable and to be YOU to you.

There is no rules either so change it around and try it out for a bit.  Until you do anything legal its just a name you like or not and can be changed.

Even then you could always change it but that will cost money at that point.

 

 

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Jackie C.

Money and time. There's a court date involved plus a pile of paperwork (depending on state laws naturally).

 

However, until you're ready to make it official, try on things you might like until you settle on something that fits. Jackie was my first choice and I love her to death, but she's not QUITE right. Jackie's more like my older, edgier sister. When I changed it officially, I made it Robyn Jacqueline. Robyn fits better and Jackie gets to stay close.

 

Hugs!

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Mary Jane

Ok thank you and I’m going to keep on thinking for a name and keep searching for one but for now I can be called mark or Mary jane and Mary Jane can be shortened to Mary,

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