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frame of referance for female voice


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Hello, I am considering SRS(MtF) in the future, but as a first step toward that goal, I am going to try to achieve a female voice. I have no clue how to start changing it, what kind of people to listen to for reference, and how other people will react. I haven't even told my mom, the only person I've told is a friend of mine who is the only person I trust more than my family. 

 

note that this is completely hypothetical, i am pretty certain that i am going to do this but there's still that 2% of my mind that is questioning the transition.

 

please help me

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If you are MtF the first people to listen to are girls your age and in your social circle.  Pitch is not nearly as important as is the vocabulary and the voice musicality and word emphasis.  Girls do those thing differently than boys do, so go straight to the source for that and really listen.  Another help would be singing experience, and there, find songs written by women about their subjects and experiences and in the Alto. and high Tenor ranges.  A third place would be to find scripts of plays with female characters and read their dialogues with each other.  If you can do it, join your school's drama club and offer to read the female parts to your club members. 

There are really a lot of ways to do it, it requires LISTENING and remembering what you heard.  We have posts about this in several places here on the forums and you posted this in the right one.

As to being 98% sure you want and NEED to do this, that is much more than enough to at least try it. 

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I strongly recommend a voice coach. There are a number of voice coaches that can be either contacted in person (depending on where you live) or you could go with an online program. I personally achieved good results with the Female Voice Club when feminizing my voice, but I have friends who have achieved voices they're satisfied with using other coaches and programs.

 

This is one of those things where what you get out of it depends on what you put into it. I found it to be incredibly rewarding. However, there are also surgical options. You should still have a voice coach afterwards (because of all the things Vicky said and more) to get inflections, speaking patterns, etc... nailed down, but surgery will absolutely fix your pitch if you can't do it yourself.

 

Good luck sweetie!

 

Hugs!

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I'm in voice therapy now but only two appointments deep and unfortunately they are spread out to just one per month.  I am struggling with it as I have a physical issue going on with me that effects my voice box.  I don't see it as a real issue at first as it puts me in a gender neutral voice pitch but apparently I have to get back to my original male voice before I can try to learn to manipulate my female voice.  (Sigh)

However like the other ladies pointed out if you can nail the "way" females talk and gesture while they talk that is half the battle.  There are tons of apps on your phone that can help teach you this to a point but the best teacher is listening like Vicky said and mimic what you hear and learn from others.  

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Once a month isn't a terrible pace. It's not super quick, but I bet there's plenty of homework between lessons with things you can work on. I was only doing two lessons a month and that kept me PLENTY busy most of the time.

 

Hugs!

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42 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

Once a month isn't a terrible pace. It's not super quick, but I bet there's plenty of homework between lessons with things you can work on. I was only doing two lessons a month and that kept me PLENTY busy most of the time.

 

Hugs!

She was wanting me in once per week to get the other issues ironed out before heading into real conditioning.  I do have a ton of physical exercises and stretches I have to do and a few voice training techniques to do while driving.

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