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Emily michelle

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I didn’t know where to put this, but I’m so excited tonight I finally got my wife’s approval to begin hormones. Now I feel like I’m starting to come together and be who I’m supposed to be.

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Well thats nice to hear.  I hope it goes well for you!

Jani 

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That is so awesome. I really hope it works out for the two of you. Do you have kids? Mine were about middle age when I came out and they are cool with it.

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We don’t have kids yet we have to go the ivy route to have kids because we have both had health problems so I will be freezing my sperm so when she is ready we can continue on. At least now I can see a light at the end of the tunnel.

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50 minutes ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

Congrats!!!

Thanks!! Now I guess it’s time I start coming out to more people.

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congrat's  once you come out to the people that care in yr the rest is a piece of cake. I  caution you that don't except everyone to be on board...BUT THAT'S OK...It will take a while both on yr parts to accept the real you and on then to accept you. congrats again. Be safe, BE Proud and KICK ASS

 

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4 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m so excited tonight I finally got my wife’s approval to begin hormones. Now I feel like I’m starting to come together and be who I’m supposed to be.

Emily Michelle...A big congrats to you...I know how excited you must be...enjoy this moment.  You’ll soon be experiencing a very important milestone on your journey. You have a very accepting and understanding spouse. Thanks for sharing your good news.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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I would like to say I can take some people not wanting to be around me anymore, but I know for sure I don’t want to be miserable the rest of my life. I don’t have a whole lot of people to come out to because for many years I hid myself by working nonstop because I never wanted to admit it. Now it’s a chance to make new friends as myself.

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9 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

Thanks!! Now I guess it’s time I start coming out to more people.

I know this feeling and drive to be out there and then the far and axeity of it grips you and you feel crippled by it.  Fight it!

Own It!  You are you and the wolrd deserves to know you and you deserve to be who you were meant to be.  

Coming out is the hardest thing to do as you never know what the person will say or how they will react.  I had the hardest time with every single person.  You may have a few that you know well enough to come out to that will be positive.  Hit those folks up first and build a nice comfortable roll.  Then go with it and continue the positive flow of it.

I used letters to do this as I am way to emotional and stammer and blubber trying to say anything this important.  Plus I felt it would be better to be able to say what I needed to say all at once without being interrupted or diverted off on some random tangent.  

Be understanding as it is a big shock to many.  For us it is easy to think of this being "our issue", "only about me", but in reality it is the issue of everyone you love and know so be patient and understanding too.

Good Luck Hon!

 

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Incredible, and wonderful! Go for it. Now I wish mine would do the same. All be the best.

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Congratulations Emily! Hormones are... well, you're in for a bit of a ride. Enjoy it! I'm so happy for you!

 

Hugs!

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I am so envious, Emily. I just wish my wife would at least accept that I am who I am.

 

Kymmie

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13 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

I know this feeling and drive to be out there and then the far and axeity of it grips you and you feel crippled by it.  Fight it!

Own It!  You are you and the wolrd deserves to know you and you deserve to be who you were meant to be.  

Coming out is the hardest thing to do as you never know what the person will say or how they will react.  I had the hardest time with every single person.  You may have a few that you know well enough to come out to that will be positive.  Hit those folks up first and build a nice comfortable roll.  Then go with it and continue the positive flow of it.

I used letters to do this as I am way to emotional and stammer and blubber trying to say anything this important.  Plus I felt it would be better to be able to say what I needed to say all at once without being interrupted or diverted off on some random tangent.  

Be understanding as it is a big shock to many.  For us it is easy to think of this being "our issue", "only about me", but in reality it is the issue of everyone you love and know so be patient and understanding too.

Good Luck Hon!

 

My therapist mentioned letters and I never real thought of that it is a good idea my wife would have to help me the last time I attempted to write a letter was high school and I’m sure I didn’t even write it then haha. Coming out to my mom will be interesting because she doesn’t believe people have mental issues. The next hardest will be my brother in law, because when I’m not working 60+ hours a week I’m usually with him and he is not LGBT friendly. I really don’t want to lose him because we live on the same county road and he is the gateway to my sister and my niece.

   On another note I talked to my therapist today and she is referring me to an endocrinologist and I was able to schedule my sperm freezing so I’m very happy about that.

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Everyone seems to have their own challenges and some are easy and some are very difficult.  Being who you are meant to be is not a choice though.  You were born this way and di not chose it.  In the end you deserve to be you as much as anyone else in the world.  You have a right to live as you wish as an American and a human being since being you is a lot more healthy then trying to live in hiding.  Trust me when I say it can be dangerous to force yourself to hide for decades.  I almost lost my life to a server mental break down and tried to commit suicide over it and I was so close to ending it all. 

Today I am so happy and can't imagine feeling like that ever again.

 

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Actually the reason why I came out to my wife was because I had a breakdown and tried to commit suicide. I’m just glad I didn’t have the guts to do it. Overall I’m so much happier now besides my roller coaster ride with dysphoria.

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54 minutes ago, Emily michelle said:

Actually the reason why I came out to my wife was because I had a breakdown and tried to commit suicide. I’m just glad I didn’t have the guts to do it. Overall I’m so much happier now besides my roller coaster ride with dysphoria.

Same.  So happy now.  

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It’s funny things I wouldn’t let myself do before like shopping and watching chick flicks I absolutely love doing now. I wouldn’t even allow myself to spend quality time with my wife. Because I built such a wall around myself. I’m so glad that wall is gone

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46 minutes ago, Emily michelle said:

t’s funny things I wouldn’t let myself do before like shopping and watching chick flicks I absolutely love doing now. I wouldn’t even allow myself to spend quality time with my wife. Because I built such a wall around myself. I’m so glad that wall is gone

 

That breaking down of walls is what I experienced too as I came out to my wife.  I think in some ways we are still healing from the times I wouldn't let her in, but it is without a doubt better than before.

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50 minutes ago, Tory Aoi said:

 

That breaking down of walls is what I experienced too as I came out to my wife.  I think in some ways we are still healing from the times I wouldn't let her in, but it is without a doubt better than before.

My wife and I are adjusting to it all but it is definitely for the better. She told me tonight she should of been the man and me the woman in our marriage 

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Wow I am happy for you Emily.  You are lucky to have a supportive wife.. and yes we need to feel good. I feel I will make a good wife to a woman someday.  I am used to being a care giver and I am naturally submissive. My support goes your way.

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Thank you. I am indeed very lucky and I thought She would not approve at all. She is getting a lot better with my pronouns.

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And yes asked the counseling if I prefer she or her I definitely prefer she or her . Might I add  in your profile picture you look very pretty. This surely will be a roller coaster ride with ups and downs I just want to be happy and true to myself. I rather be alone and live as Denise then be miserable and pretend I'm always Dennis. I'm sure you liked me a very giving caring empathetic person. I'll always be that way no matter what gender I represent.

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That’s how it got with me I was so miserable I brokedown. That’s when I decided I can’t hide it and didn’t want to be miserable 

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