Sex help questions.

[Chloé Rei]

I am not looking for anything serious at the moment. Not saying if the one crosses my path i won't go all in, but a lot of guys are interested in me. However I am not attracted to a single one. In your opinion am i being to picky? When i was in school a guy told me <vagina> does not have a face. Meaning he would bang anyone. That was not the case for me. I had to be physically attracted to the person. What i found strange is that people i found unattractive, if i got to know them some of them became beautiful. So should i give someone unattractive to me a chance incase they have a beautiful spirit i fall in love with? Dying alone was always something i was afraid of and since this has happened to two ofmy neighbors i'm starting to panic. Sorry for being so self centered.

 

 

 

 

Edited March 26, 2020 by VickySGV
word filter bypass caught.

[Jackie C.]

Well, I'm not generally attracted to guys that way but... I'm only really attracted (I mean beyond, "Oh, she's pretty") once I get to know them. I'm attracted to people's personalities, not so much their appearance. I was like that when I was still a guy and pre-HRT. Post-HRT that desire is even stronger.

 

Guys are more, "Any time! Any where!" However, I've never really been a guy so...

 

It'll happen when it happens. You can't force it and you're not looking for anything serious right now so have fun. Get to know people. Put yourself out there if that's what you want. Also don't be afraid to approach someone if you find them interesting. The worst they can do is say, "No."

 

Hugs!

[TTheta]

I think I can speak for the guys out there, or more like myself. I am all over the place, personality plays a huge part but if someone gives me even just a little bit attention my brain will automatically want to give them attention back. 

 

A girl could walk past me and smile to be polite and I would swear I was in love. Of course I know it is just infatuation or my 'guy brain' haha 

[A. Dillon]

Yeah, I see people and can instantly be like "whoa". Like, passing them in the hallway will be a highlight of my day, and yet I can't find myself attracted to their personality. On the other hand, I can grow incredibly attached to someone that I didn't think of on first glance. You never really know, try new things. There are no rules, I currently have someone that has everything, and we don't need to follow anything ❤️

 

[VickySGV]

I will throw a new term out for you -- DEMI SEXUAL

 

A person who is attracted to one or only a very few people based on the person and personality without regard to their sex or gender assignment.  Physical intimacy derives from the person to person relationship.

[ShawnaLeigh]

2 hours ago, Aidan5 said:

A girl could walk past me and smile to be polite and I would swear I was in love.

This has been me my whole life.  LOL

 

As for the original question I say it is very situational.  You need to have some attraction to being with to want to get to know a person better from the start.  Are you missing out on someone truly special?  Maybe but why explore a relationship if you do not feel that spark from the beginning?  I say hold out until you find what you are looking for and then seek out that beautiful sprite.  If that's there too then go for it.  If not, be nice and move on.

JMO