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For me, there is at least one good thing about the shelter-in-place regimen. I'm doing it en femme pretty much full time, and there's not enough time in the days.

I live alone with my dog, and the only time he's judgmental is when I'm late with his dinner. I've got a few cute clothes -- enough until I hit ebay again. I've found comfortable sleep-wear, hi cut stretchy nylon panties and a sheer sports bra. I'm following a schedule that emulates working in an office -- dressed "nice" for work, perfumed and fresh, then baggies for evenings. So far it's a gratifying schedule, and I'm learning every day, especially hairstyles. I wear earrings during the day, a nice bracelet, necklace and my full-time neckchain with the symbol of who I think I am -- it's a female circle and cross inside a male arrow, hanging beside a Celtic knot, all twisting around. It fits me.

This clothing is so comfortable, and comforting. My bra feels like an embrace. I'm an A cup without hormones. It's mostly fat, of course, but I'll take it. My panties keep my female side clearly in mind, every time I move my butt in my chair. I dress because I like how I feel en femme.  

So how is everyone coping? I hope you're doing fine, and being very, very careful. Stay safe, Baby Girls.

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tracy_j

I am glad you are finding time to be yourself :)

 

Although I would admit that I do feel cooped up, when I do look at my current lifestyle, it does not differ too greatly than usual. Most of the time I don't see many people these days. My daily walks are out in the countryside. Here I am literally 2 minutes to the open fields so almost nil possibility of infection except for a short walk. The sad thing is that when I meet anyone we don't stop to chat. Usually I take every opportunity.

 

There are a few people around me who have underlying health issues though so I have to be very careful. I used to work in healthcare and did accumulate one or two bottles of hand sanitiser. They are now coming in very useful.

 

I am just hoping that I will be able to wear my summer dresses this summer. At the moment I am not really getting dressed for the supermarket to the extent I was. My Sunday morning shopping was a walk around so I enjoyed dressing up for it but now it is just tidy but less showy as it is more in - shop - out.

 

Take care everyone!

 

Tracy

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Sally Stone

Hey Leah,

 

enjoy it while you can.  I'm a bit more of a social girl, so, I like getting out and right now I can't do much of that.  I do try to set aside at least one day a week to be Sally though despite being told to shelter in place.

 

Hugs,

 

Sally

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Sandra6sandy9sand

Hi Leah,

 

 It is always fun to be dressed. Life has not changed to much for me, other than not being able to go to church and sing with a group I belong to. I wear my usual woman’s bib short alls,  matching panties and bra, top, socks and shoes for work at home. After work, I change into leggings and a sweatshirt. Sometimes I put on my woman’s kilt if I’m going to have a bit of scotch.

 

Fortunately my wife is very tolerant of my feminine self and we are getting along quite well.

 

I hope you stay well Leah.

 

Sandra

 

 

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